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The World Isn’t Fair

There were a few sayings that our dads always were ready to share with us as we grow up, such as:

  • six to one, half a dozen the other
  • the maid isn’t coming today
  • pull my finger
Hopefully we learned lessons from these words of wisdom.
  • Sometimes it doesn’t matter which choice we make, just make one.
  • Clean up after yourself because nobody else is going to do it for you. This means your physical messes as well as emotional ones you create (we don’t understand that second part until much later in life)
  • Be careful when something seems easy as it might not bring results that you desire

There were many other sayings that dads always have to share and my dad had his favorite one…The World Isn’t Fair! This might have been one of the hardest lessons for a kid to understand as we were always told to be fair and share and use our manners and then the world didn’t follow those same rules.

Maybe you were the most qualified for that job position or maybe you did work really hard on a project that someone else took the credit for. It might have been that you were planning a vacation that had to be canceled or you were rear ended in your brand new car.

Whatever it was that the world did to you, dad always seemed to have the same piece of advice…the world isn’t fair, and what are you going to do about it?

This was all captured well by the wonderful cartoonist Bill Watterson in this Calvin and Hobbes comic strip…

Wisdom from Calvin and Hobbes

Calvin of course was overlooking the wonderful ways that the world isn’t fair did work in his advantage. How many other kids got away with the stuff he did? How many other kids had an amazing talking imaginary tiger/best friend like he did? We know Calvin is a comic and not real (you knew that right?) and yet we often act the same way.

Think about all the times you have claimed the world isn’t fair to someone. Now stop for a moment and think about all of the ways the world isn’t fair AND in your favor?

Maybe you have a great partner in your life or a wonderful job you enjoy going to. Remember that you might have a home to go to which puts you ahead of the estimated 100 million homeless people in the world.

The world isn’t fair, and while sometimes it might pull the rug out from under you remember, there are many times that the world seems to revolve around you.

Thanks dads for all of the words of wisdom!

Chadalyst – Write down the 3 ways that the world is not fair and seems to be against you. Now take a moment and write down 3 ways that the world is not fair and in your favor! You will start to see the positive and stop worrying about the smaller issues.

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall

The first image that goes through your mind when you hear those words of, “mirror, mirror on the wall” is probably the evil queen from Snow White. While the Evil Queen was just that, evil, the mirror was not. The Magic Mirror spoke nothing other than the truth. As we know from the story the mirror tells the queen that she is the fairest in the land, until the day that Snow White becomes of age.

We are not here to discuss the story of Snow White or cover the classic tale of good versus evil. Instead we are here to look deeper into that mirror.

When you look into the mirror what question is it that you ask? Are you asking who is the fairest in the land? Are you asking where your hair has gone or where those strange new hairs came from? Are you asking what lies ahead for you or maybe you are asking what you did with all of those days that have already passed.

The questions are important and the answer is really what we are here to take a look at. As the Magic Mirror always did, your mirror does the same when it answers you. It answers you honestly.

When you ask the mirror about the spare tire around your midsection, it is your choices that helped that tire grow and your choice that keep the tire there.

When you ask for confidence or beauty, do you see a confident person or a beautiful person or are you not having that confidence in your beauty and seeing neither when you look at the reflection?

Stand up to that mirror and start getting the answers that you want!

You ARE confident
You ARE beautiful
You ARE unstoppable
You ARE all of that and more!
Now…believe it when you look into that mirror and that is the answer that will come back to you!

Are you willing to look into that mirror and ask the tough question? More importantly are you willing to hear the answers?

Chadalyst -What do you want to change the most? Go look into your mirror and let it know what is coming!

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Secret Agent

Sneaking through the dark shadows. Slipping into doorways and around corners. Willing others to not notice them as the secret agent attempts to complete their mission.

The secret agent goes through their day, their week, their life hoping nobody even notices them and that they can sneak in and sneak out without even being remembered.

Are you this secret agent?

Are you the type of person that sneaks to your job each day, does what you need to do and then sneaks out to return home?

Are you the type of person that outside of the office does your best to not get into the conversation about what it is that you do for a living?

If someone asks you what you do, how do you answer? With a quick short answer that changes the subject or do you straighten up tall and answer the question?

Do you love what you do or are you a secret agent in your life?

During a conversation with someone you are just meeting, what do you do for a living, will be a common question. The way you answer it will tell people a lot about you.

You can always give the routine answer…I’m a lawyer. I’m a real estate agent. I’m a mail carrier.
OR
Take it a step further and give an answer that will open the door to continued conversation, show you love what you do and make sure you are remembered and don’t become that secret agent.

I’m a lawyer becomes I get to help people settle some of the largest conflicts of their lives
I’m a real estate agent becomes I work with population relocation
I’m a mail carrier becomes I deliver good news and bad news to people all day long

Be proud of what you do and instead of being a secret agent be a super hero and let everyone see you coming.

Don’t worry, you do not need to wear the bright-colored skin-tight latex outfits (unless you really want to.)

 

Chadalyst -Take a moment and find an outragous way to describe what you do for a living.

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