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Fear Factor: Popular tv show or your life?

Did you ever watch the hit show Fear Factor? Many did and many will pretend they never did. Some will claim watching it as a guilty pleasure and some of you will proudly claim to have never missed an episode.

This is not a review of the show. This is a look at the many powerful lessons that Fear Factor can teach us.

Let’s take a look at how the show worked and the lessons we should learn.

Contestants would appear on the show unaware what was ahead for them.
-This sounds like almost every day in your life doesn’t it? You wake up and have no idea what is ahead for you. You think you have a handle on what is to come and sometimes it works like you think. Then again, sometimes life decides to change the plans and greets you with a flat tire, an unhappy customer, an ill family member or who knows what.

What do you fear that could be a part of any day of your life?

  • fear being alone?
  • fear heights?
  • fear spiders or snakes?
  • fear commitment?
  • fear the dark?

Once the contestants were on the show and found out some of the challenges ahead of them they had no choice other than face their fear.
-Again this is just like your life. When that unhappy customer comes in to your store or when your day puts a challenge in front of you what do you do? Do you quit and run home to hide under your blankets or do you stand up to the challenge and take it head on? You might not like it and you have to remember to face the fear that stands before you.

After each challenge some of the contestants on the show were sent home. Maybe their time was the slowest or they collected the lowest number of objects from a challenge or maybe they gave in to the fear.
-You might not win each challenge that life puts in your path and that is ok. As long as you learn from it just in case you get the chance for the same challenge one more time in your life.

At the end of the show one contestant is left standing and declared the winner. They would win a cash prize and the fame.
-As you face each of your fears and overcome them you will also be declared a winner in life and you will feel the power that comes from the confidence boost.*

Probably the most important lesson that we learn from the show (and the contestants might not have learned this one) is that we shouldn’t eat things like living worms, goat eyes or other parts of other animals.

Face your fears head on and come out a winner, just like the contestants from Fear Factor!

Chadalyst -What do you fear? We believe one of the things most people fear is success. Tell us what you fear in the comments and what you are going to do to overcome your fear.

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* Ember Seminars will not be sending any cash prizes, so overcome your fears for the powerful internal satisfaction

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall

The first image that goes through your mind when you hear those words of, “mirror, mirror on the wall” is probably the evil queen from Snow White. While the Evil Queen was just that, evil, the mirror was not. The Magic Mirror spoke nothing other than the truth. As we know from the story the mirror tells the queen that she is the fairest in the land, until the day that Snow White becomes of age.

We are not here to discuss the story of Snow White or cover the classic tale of good versus evil. Instead we are here to look deeper into that mirror.

When you look into the mirror what question is it that you ask? Are you asking who is the fairest in the land? Are you asking where your hair has gone or where those strange new hairs came from? Are you asking what lies ahead for you or maybe you are asking what you did with all of those days that have already passed.

The questions are important and the answer is really what we are here to take a look at. As the Magic Mirror always did, your mirror does the same when it answers you. It answers you honestly.

When you ask the mirror about the spare tire around your midsection, it is your choices that helped that tire grow and your choice that keep the tire there.

When you ask for confidence or beauty, do you see a confident person or a beautiful person or are you not having that confidence in your beauty and seeing neither when you look at the reflection?

Stand up to that mirror and start getting the answers that you want!

You ARE confident
You ARE beautiful
You ARE unstoppable
You ARE all of that and more!
Now…believe it when you look into that mirror and that is the answer that will come back to you!

Are you willing to look into that mirror and ask the tough question? More importantly are you willing to hear the answers?

Chadalyst -What do you want to change the most? Go look into your mirror and let it know what is coming!

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Secret Agent

Sneaking through the dark shadows. Slipping into doorways and around corners. Willing others to not notice them as the secret agent attempts to complete their mission.

The secret agent goes through their day, their week, their life hoping nobody even notices them and that they can sneak in and sneak out without even being remembered.

Are you this secret agent?

Are you the type of person that sneaks to your job each day, does what you need to do and then sneaks out to return home?

Are you the type of person that outside of the office does your best to not get into the conversation about what it is that you do for a living?

If someone asks you what you do, how do you answer? With a quick short answer that changes the subject or do you straighten up tall and answer the question?

Do you love what you do or are you a secret agent in your life?

During a conversation with someone you are just meeting, what do you do for a living, will be a common question. The way you answer it will tell people a lot about you.

You can always give the routine answer…I’m a lawyer. I’m a real estate agent. I’m a mail carrier.
OR
Take it a step further and give an answer that will open the door to continued conversation, show you love what you do and make sure you are remembered and don’t become that secret agent.

I’m a lawyer becomes I get to help people settle some of the largest conflicts of their lives
I’m a real estate agent becomes I work with population relocation
I’m a mail carrier becomes I deliver good news and bad news to people all day long

Be proud of what you do and instead of being a secret agent be a super hero and let everyone see you coming.

Don’t worry, you do not need to wear the bright-colored skin-tight latex outfits (unless you really want to.)

 

Chadalyst -Take a moment and find an outragous way to describe what you do for a living.

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Pay No Attention To The Elephant

You wake up on the edge of your bed after not sleeping well. It is hard to get comfortable in bed with an elephant sharing the blankets.

You head to work for the day and can feel the eyes of that elephant filling the rear view mirror as you attempt to focus on your drive.

You sit at your desk and pretend not to notice this extremely large mammal that is sitting in the corner waiting for its turn in your day.

Lunch just isn’t as satisfying as it once was knowing that this elephant is looking at you like a meal of its own. Lucky for you, elephants are herbivores.

How long can you ignore this elephant, or his friend the 800 pound gorilla that follow you everywhere you go?

When will you finally take a moment to deal with this shadow that is following your every step?

Do you enjoy the feeling of security that is brought to your life with this elephant always there? Or are you ready to become the hunter and vanquish this behemoth from your world?

It is time to escape this pachyderm and send it back into the wild and let it run free. That can only happen when you choose to break the chain that binds you two together.

What does your elephant in the corner represent?

  • Outstanding bills?
  • Relationship that you are not giving the attention it needs and it is failing?
  • A child that needs your guidance and isn’t getting it?
  • A job that you are not living up to?
  • Your own personal self-confidence issues?
  • The list could go on and on.

Let’s put a stop to that list here and now and let the elephant free. You can’t wait for someone else to hunt or release your elephant and you can win this battle.

Remember – how do you eat and elephant? One bite at a time. Start with that first bite!

Chadalyst – Write down what your “elephant” is and when are you going to face that elephant? Thinking about it is more stressful than actually facing it!

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Why Did The Chicken Cross The Road?

We have all heard the joke before and there are many different answers for what that chicken is up to. Some guesses are funny, some you need to be a certain age to understand and some are just so off the wall that you might find yourself laughing uncomfortably.

It all comes down to this…we have no idea why that chicken does anything it does.

While driving home the other day there were chickens on the side of the road and one decided to make the mad dash across the street. Never thought I would live long enough to actually see a chicken cross a road. Even after seeing it for myself there is still no answer to the life long question of why did the chicken cross the road.

Nothing was chasing the chicken. There wasn’t anything more interesting looking on the other side of the road. Heck, two of the chickens stayed put while this one chicken made the run of a lifetime.

Will we ever know why the chicken crossed the road? Sadly, probably not.

This brings us to the even more important question, then why did the chicken cross the road.

Why do you do some of the things that you do?

That is a question that is being asked by many around you.

Most of the time you know why you are doing whatever that might be. You might believe it is for the opportunity to climb the corporate ladder. You think that it is a chance for you to be able to help others. Maybe for you it is to get the spotlight finally. Meanwhile, the rest of the world looks at you and wonders what you are doing and why you just did that.

You are that chicken!

Do you stop to explain everything you do or do you just find yourself doing things?

Do you ask for permission or ask for forgiveness?

Are you the chicken running across the road or are you the chicken that stays put? Which do you want to be? You can be whichever you choose to be. Just make a choice and get out of the middle of the road finally.

Don’t become the losing end of a chicken crossing the road joke. Stand firm once you make your choice and run for it!.

Chadalyst -What is something you have been putting off doing? Head down, don’t think of the traffic…just run for it!

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Refuel your life for free. Step 4

In yesterday’s posting we looked at the third step in refueling your life. Make sure you check back to step 1 and step 2 as we continue to cover how you feel when you are running on empty and how you feel when your personal tank is filled.

We have talked about the first three things that you can do to make sure that you start refueling you own life, for free, and they have been pretty basic so far.

  1. Garbage in = garbage out – make sure you eat right!
  2. Sleep enough for your body to recharge
  3. Exercise daily

Today we take a look at step 4, and one that is a little out in left field.

Make a fool of yourself.

The fourth way to refuel your life for free is a challenging one to most as we are usually so concerned about our outer image. Making a fool of yourself is no easy thing to do.

Now, we don’t want you to do anything crazy here, like fall down a flight of stairs or something that could really hurt.

Taking a moment to release the stress of being self conscious can make a big difference in your life and your energy levels.

When you remove the pressure you put on yourself to conform to the rules of society and avoid being the outcast, you will feel your energy return to you.

Laughter releases endorphins and this will help you to feel charged through your day. Laughter at your expense will make you feel worse, unless you are ready for it, planning on it and able to laugh along with it.

Go on and do something that you know will make everyone laugh at you and more importantly with you!

Follow along with this blog to get the next step in refueling your life.

Chadalyst – Wear something outlandish that you know will get a laugh. Be ready for the laugh and don’t worry if people think your outfit is out there. Just enjoy the fun of it!

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