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TOAST them or you’re toast!

There is a limited number of relationships that each of us can maintain at any one time. The most well known research on this topic was done by Robin Dunbar who states, “humans can only comfortably maintain 150 stable relationships.” He goes on to say that this 150 is “the number of people one knows and keeps social contact with.”

What happens when you meet someone or have a relationship with someone and want to make sure that you keep social contact with them? You have to work at it.

Relationships take work!

You must T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, otherwise your relationships are toast!

burnt toastFor those of you that don’t know the expression, “you’re toast” it is a phrase used to indicate that someone is in big trouble. In this case, your relationships!

While you might be able to have in the area of 150 relationships, you should figure your 30-40 key relationships in your life, both personal and professional (yes that means your spouse, your children, your parents, as well as your boss, co-workers and clients)
If you can remember to take the time to toast each relationship it will be that much easier to strengthen your key relationships.

T = Talk to them.

This means that you must pick up the phone and call them or even better get face to face and spend a little time with them. This doesn’t matter if it is family, a co-worker, or a client that you value. Check in and spend a little time catching up.
What to say when you are talking to them?
O = Offer
A = Assistance
Don’t worry about asking them to help you, instead make the focus of your call about how you can offer assistance to them! They will return the favor again and again as you continue to strengthen the relationship
S = Send them something
See an interesting article online? Email it to them and let them know. Read something in a magazine that they might enjoy reading, send it to them. Find a comic in the Sunday paper (we know you flip to the comics first) that makes you laugh, cut it out and mail it to them. Make sure they continue to get things from you.
T = Text them
In today’s society almost everyone texts. It is an easy way for communication. Start the day with a simple text to wish them a great day. Send off a text to share something that happened. Did you see them post something on Facebook that really caught your attention? Don’t just comment on Facebook, take it a step farther and text them as well.  Just don’t text and drive!
If you can’t remember each month to T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, then they will fall apart and your relationships will be toast.
Take a moment, raise a glass, or in this case a phone, and toast your key relationships and watch them strengthen!

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CIRCLE Growth

There is always time to improve your relationships in life.

It doesn’t matter if you are in a sales business, run an office, or even are a teacher in a classroom, C.I.R.C.L.E. growth can be yours easily and you will be able to see an increase in your relationships.

When asked, people will usually overstate the depth of a connection they have with others in their life. This doesn’t matter if they are personal or business associations. We, as people, believe that other people will remember us, that they are thinking about us and will be there for us as needed.This statement is even more prominent in the sales world as commissioned sales people believe they have a huge database of people who are always thinking about them.

Sadly this is not true!

Facebook might allow us to have 5000 Friends and while that sounds wonderful, it is a lie. The truth is we should probably change the words a little and have 5000 acquaintances on Facebook. According to studies done by Robin Dunbar and by Bernard–Killworth we see that the average person can have between 100-300 true relationships at any one time. Having a large database is wonderful as long as you remember that without at least quarterly contact, face-to-face or speaking over the phone, you shouldn’t count on those people. Meaning your database can hold many names, only the number that you can speak to each quarter should be counted as true contacts.

Some people have 100 relationships in their lives and would still only name 50 of them if they had to think about it as they stay in a very small circle. At the same time others believe they have thousands of relationships and none of those people would even know who they are. Having a database full of names or a full Facebook account doesn’t mean you have a relationship.

This is where C.I.R.C.L.E. growth comes into play.

CIRCLE growth

Contact to

Increase

Relationships

Creating

Lasting

Engagement

We can take the time to add C.I.R.C.L.E. calls, C.I.R.C.L.E. emails, C.I.R.C.L.E. mailers and more to our day and this will help us develop those connections to a stronger bond.

What do these things consist of? C.I.R.C.L.E. calls

  • speaking to someone
  • talking about THEM
  • NOT talking about your business unless they ask

C.I.R.C.L.E. emails

  • emailing AND getting a reply
  • talking about THEM
  • NOT talking about your business unless they ask

C.I.R.C.L.E. mailers

  • writing it by hand
  • talking about THEM
  • NOT talking about your business unless they ask

Notice a trend? TALK about them and don’t ask about or for business. Check out their Facebook page or look in your notes and have something personal to call them about.

  • Did they go on a vacation?
  • Did they celebrate something special?
  • Did they buy something new?

Remember this…give to give, not give to get. Trust us, you will get back more than you ever thought possible. As you make your C.I.R.C.L.E. calls, emails and mailings all of it will circle back to you. By making these connections and letting them know you are a part of their life through calls, emails and handwritten notes you will gain the mind share you are looking for and you will be able to improve your relationships in life. Improve RelationshipsDo you enjoy the information found in these blogs?

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