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Lead with revenue even through the holidays

From decorations in the stores to the red cups at Starbucks and everything pumpkin spiced, we know that holiday season is here. The holidays bring so many emotions from joy to happiness to a childlike glee and yes, sadly to stress.

What brings the stress the most? The financial commitment that the holidays can become. From travel to gifts to donations to more gifts to tables full of food and to even more gifts it is easy to turn a wonderful time into one that brings worry.

We have been hearing the lesson of LEAD WITH REVENUE for years in the business world and it should also apply to our personal world!

With many of us putting together our annual budget for next year it is time to stop and think about all of those business expenses that we do not need to have. Time to stop and think about where we are going to put our money next year. Then, making sure we have the income to exceed the expenses so we end the year with profit!

Lead with revenue is not just a business concept and we can use this powerful lesson to make the most of our personal life as well.
money christmas tree

Here is what we have learned to do. We have a jar that we fill following a schedule all year-long. On week 1 we put $1 in the jar. On week 2 we put $2 in the jar, and so on and so on. On week 36 we put $36 in the jar and by now we are sure you have figured the pattern. By the end of the year you will end up with $1378 in the jar. We add a little extra by emptying our pockets of coins into the jar and by the end of the year are in the area of $1500. Now, we take that money, divide it up and have our holiday budget to shop for friends, family, charity and ourselves. No stress, no credit card bills and nobody attempting to out shop anyone else.

This same pattern can be used in your business world as well as you add money to an account once a week or with every check you receive. Build up this account with a target to pay for needed training or a tool you need to add to the business or coaching for  yourself and then you too can lead with revenue and not with hope and stress!

Here’s to a happy holiday season and to a revenue filled year for each of you!

 

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Have a Masters Mindset

For one weekend every year the eyes of the sporting world are looking at Augusta, Georgia. This year was no different and it is one that will be remembered thanks to a little history made at The Masters. Here’s the best part, you can decide which way you will remember this weekend.
Here’s what happened…
masters-logoJordan Spieth collapsed on the 12th hole of the final round of the Masters. He only had 8 holes left in the biggest golf tournament. He had a 5 stroke lead and looked like there was nothing that was going to stop him from winning the event. Jordan, at 22 years of age, is the defending champion and would have become only the 4th golfer to win in back to back years. If he held on to win the sports world would have been asking if he was the next Tiger, the next (Jack) Nicklaus and one of the greatest to play the game of golf. Sadly, this conversation did not occur.
Instead Jordan Spieth got ready to tee off at the 12th hole, a par 3, and after finding the water twice, and a bunker once, he ended the hole with a 7 (4 over par) and he never recovered.
Meanwhile, Danny Willett an excellent golfer in his own right, ranked just outside of the top #10 in the world and someone who most people could not pick out of a line-up took the lead and won the tournament and the coveted green jacket.
Now imagine how that could be you. Things are working well for you. You are having success at work and things almost feel too easy. Everything is moving along and all cylinders are clicking. Then all of a sudden you have a bad day. This bad day could be caused by something outside of work, or maybe it is work related. How do we keep moving forward so we don’t have a collapse that puts an end to an amazing week, month or even year? How do we make sure that we can get back up and are able to get back on top?
It is all about having the right mindset! This is the main focus of The ONE Thing Workshop. Some of the things that you can learn and work on improving is how to create powerful habits, live a counter balanced life and surround yourself with the right people. Find out when The ONE Thing Workshop will be in your area and join me.
How is your mindset? Will you remember The Masters of 2016 as a great come from behind win for Willett or will you remember it as the collapse of Spieth?
Oh and while all of that was happening the Golden State Warriors tied the Chicago Bulls with their 72 win of the NBA season and a chance to set a new record at 73 wins, something that has never been done before.
Don’t forget that while many things can distract us and pull our focus, there is always the chance that someone is coming out of what seems to be nowhere to set records behind you!

 

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Chadalyst – When you are on a plane the Flight Attendant instructs you to put your oxygen mask on first in case of emergency. That way you take care of yourself before you attempt to take care of others and can be the most helpful. Take a moment and figure out what it is that gives you a positive mindset. Is it a walk in the woods? Some quiet time with a book? Is it a great meal that you prepare, and then get to enjoy eating? Whatever it is be sure to know it and when you are feeling down and out, go recharge your mindset!

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Overcome a Large Challenge by Making it Small

Have you ever found yourself facing a large challenge and not even sure where to start?

  • Have your taxes piled up and it is April 13th?
  • Have you looked up at your annual goal and realized it is already summer and the year is half over?
  • Have you opened your computer to too many emails to even know where to start your day?

 “When eating an elephant take one bite at a time.” – Creighton Abrams

Most of us have heard Mr Abrams’ quote, although it doesn’t solve the question of which part of the elephant should we bite first?

The answer to that question is one that still challenges most people. We learn how to overcome a large challenge by making it small and still we just stare at the challenge waiting for someone to show us step one.

Step one has now been shown to you. It might not be a bright flashing arrow pointing you in a specific direction. Maybe it won’t be as obvious as the yellow brick road was to Dorothy and Toto. Gary Keller and Jay Papasan made it quite simple when they wrote the focusing question in The ONE Thing.

What is the ONE thing that I can do today, such that by doing it everything else will be easier or unnecessary?

If you ask yourself this question at the start of your day or at the start of a project the place to start on the path to success should become clear to you.

Take your large challenge and break it down to the smaller challenges using the focusing question. Remember this might take a few steps to get it to the correct starting point.

As shown in this geometric progression a domino can knock over a domino 1 1/2 times larger. What that means is you can see that by knocking down one 2 inch tall domino you are able to knock over something as large as the Leaning Tower of Pisa with your 18th domino in the progression. Find your starting point by going small. Line up your dominoes correctly and before you know it your large challenge will be falling over!

Overcome a large challenge by making it small

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Asking the focusing question is the best way to clearly find the starting point of your path to success and help you overcome a large challenge by making it small.

 

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Chadalyst – Ask yourself the focusing question – What’s the ONE thing I can do today such that by doing it everything else will become easier or unnecessary. Now ask it again in regards to the answer you received. How small can you go? Find that FIRST domino!

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One Year

one year agoOne year

365 days (at least 75% of the time)

52 weeks

8760 hours

525,600 minutes

You get the idea. A year can be as long or as short as you make it because it never changes on the calendar.

A year ago my life was very different as I lived someplace else, worked someplace else and had many other habits in my daily routine.

What could you do with a year?

  • A home can be built in less than a year
  • Training for a marathon can be accomplished in less than a year
  • A child can be conceived and born in less than a year

According to various studies it takes 66 days to make a habit and that means that in one year you could create at least 5 new habits. You can do more than 5 if you learn more than one habit at a time. Such as working out everyday AND waking up earlier to make the most of each day.

Each year on January 1st we set new goals. We finally make changes for the better. We also make promises that we usually have broken by February 1st. Why wait?

Pick any day and start over, New Year’s Eve doesn’t matter. If you don’t like the path you took today, start again tomorrow and go in a different direction. Just know that if you keep starting over in a different direction you will most likely end up moving in a circle and getting nowhere fast!

Decide where it is you want to be a year from now and step in the right direction.

  • Do you want to weigh less? Start eating right and working out today
  • Do you want to make more money? Start working harder, smarter or searching for the opportunity to earn more.
  • Do you want to get out of debt? Start paying off your smallest debt and working in the right direction.

 

What did your life look like a year ago?

What will it look like in a year?

The Future

 

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The Weather Outside is Frightful, or is it?

What’s the weather like in your world?

I am not asking if you are from a different city then I am. I am not asking if you are in a different state. It doesn’t matter what country or even what world you are from. What I am asking is when you look outside what is the weather you see?

The weather changes often, which is what keeps our local TV weather people employed.  That is unless you live someplace like Las Vegas where the weather for at least the next 3 years seems to be hot, or a place like Seattle where the same 3 years seem to be filled with rain.

  • When you look out your window do you see storm clouds rolling in and the darkness coming or are you always able to see the patch of blue sky and the rainbows?
  • When the thunder booms is your first reaction to shut the windows and prepare for a storm or are you wanting to sit outside and watch the light show the sky is about to put on with an accompanying sound track?
  • Do you carry an umbrella just in case the rain comes or do you keep sunglasses on hand knowing the sun will be out any moment?

It all comes down to your mindset and how you look at everything in life.

Do your friends call you Debbie Downer because you always see the negative side of things or are you Sally Sunshine always looking at the bright side of life?tigger and eeyore

 
Was your favorite friend of Winnie the Pooh’s Eeyore or Tigger?

 

These are choices we can make each and everyday.

  • When your flight is delayed is that when you complain about flying or is that when you take the extra moments to make a phone call to someone you haven’t spoken to in a while?
  • When someone cuts you off on the road do you yell and scream at them even though they can’t hear you, or do you forget it and hope everything that they are rushing to is ok?

The weather will change. Seattle will have blue sky days (although they will never tell you that so you don’t move there and over crowd the city any more than it is already) and Las Vegas will have rain and days where the sun is never seen.

The question isn’t what is the weather today, the question is…what will you see in the weather today?

positive or negative

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The 5 People You Spend the Most Time With

5 people

Jim Rohn told us and since then we have heard many times that we are the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with. We are told to choose wisely as we select the people we allow into our inner circle. We hear from experts and leaders that the more we interact with successful people the more successful we will be.

That’s great advice. Thank you to all that give us this information. Here is the challenge…who are the 5 people we should be selecting? Do we get to just choose these people and all of a sudden they are in our world and impacting who we become?

5 people you spend the most time with

If that was the case some very popular and successful people would have a lot of inner circles to be a part of and wouldn’t that defeat the purpose of them selecting their 5 people?

Maybe we can set this up like a sports draft and take turns selecting people until they are taken. Wonder who your first round draft pick would be and who you think would still be waiting in the 5th round of the draft.

Instead of worrying about who the actual people are why don’t we take a look at the role each of these people should fill in your life and then you can fill in the right person.

Jenn (no last name) wrote a wonderful blog on how to surround yourself with greatness and telling us that these 5 people should be:

  • The Drill Sarge
  • The Teacher
  • The Shoulder
  • The Cheerleader
  • The Comic

In another blog Jayson Bradley tells us that the  5 people you should surround yourself with should be:

  • Idealists
  • Doers
  • Givers
  • Dreamers
  • Lovers

We want to get even more specific as we take these suggestions and build upon it.

Lets take a look at who we believe the 5 people you spend the most time with should be to improve everything about your life.

Just because you want someone to be one of your 5 it doesn’t happen overnight.

  • You might need to get an introduction to them.
  • You might need to start spending more time where they spend their time.
  • You might need to read more of their writings (that is spending time with them) or watching more of their movies, shows, or performances. *Please remember that choosing to spend more time with Harry Potter by watching his movies and reading his books will not help you develop magical powers, it will just help you become someone that doesn’t live in reality.

As you select the 5  you want to have in your inner circle keep this in mind.

  • Are they fit? Then fitness is most likely in your future.
  • Are they lazy and sit around? Then you will find yourself on your sofa a lot more.
  • Are they debt free? Then you will find yourself clearing up any debts before you know it.

These people that you spend the most time with each have a role to fill in your life. You might find that one person can fill two or three of these roles. Nothing wrong with that as long as you are choosing good people. These people will switch in your life as you grow, develop and change. While you don’t want to lose who you become, you might want to take that next step forward which means new people in some of these roles. You can always continue relationships with these people, just at a different level.

We are not saying that you can only spend time with these 5 people as that would get repetitive after a short time. We all need the input of outsiders, engagement with new people and new stories to share. Even on Gilligan’s Island it seemed visitors came by so the episodes didn’t get stale with the same 7 people. Amazingly the guests always got rescued while the original 7 remained stranded. – sorry for the tangent there.

Who do we believe the 5 people you spend the most time with should be?

  1. Partner
  2. Mentor
  3. Protege
  4. Best Friend
  5. Peer

5 different people

Let’s take a look at these 5 people in more detail.

1) Your Partner
This is your life partner, whatever that means to you.  This could be your spouse, your roommate that you have kept around. In the business world this could be your business partner.
This is the person that is there for you day in and day out. This person has seen you at your best and celebrated, while also seeing you at your worst and still wanting to be there. This person can fill many of the roles mentioned by Jenn above, such as the shoulder, the cheerleader, and even the teacher and drill sergeant.
Choose this person very carefully and strategically. Again we can’t all choose the same person and just say we want to be married to them, otherwise Vin Diesel and Scarlett Johansson might by very busy.
Choose someone that you want to share everything with forever and that you know will grow with you as you both grow in all aspects of your life.

2) A Mentor
Ask the top people in any area from business to atheltics to personal character and they will all tell you that they have a mentor or a coach in their life. We believe that this person should be more of a mentor than a coach. The difference? According to the Center for Coaching and Mentoring, mentoring is a power free, two-way mutually beneficial learning situation where the mentor provides advice, shares knowledge and experiences, and teaches using a low pressure, self-discovery approach. Also freely sharing their own experiences and skills. The mentor is both a source of information/knowledge and a Socratic questioner.
A mentor is someone that is one, two or maybe more steps ahead of you on the path you are choosing.

  • Your mentor could be someone from work that is doing now what you want to be doing in a year.
  • Your mentor could be that person you know that has the perfect relationship with their spouse or their children.
  • Your mentor could be that person that knows how the computer systems work that you are attmepting to understand.

Find that person, examine everything about that person, you don’t want a mentor at work that is a workaholic and has no relationship with his family if a family life is important to you. Then ask this person if they are willing to mentor you and help you continue to grow. If they think they don’t have the time or the energy just show them this blog and person #3 that we should all have in our inner circle.
Looking for a little more help in how to find the best mentor for you? Check out this blog post by Under30CEO about the 13 Important Qualities to Look for in a Potential Mentor.

3) A Protege
Most successful people are teaching others how to be successful as well. Nobody succeeds on their own and success leaves clues.

  • Veteran athletes take the rookie under their wing and teach them the ins and outs of life in the sport.
  • Business leaders know that at some point they will pass the business on to someone else to keep it going.
  • Parents pass on their stories, their successes and the lessons from their failures to their proteges, also know as their children.

Look around you and find that someone that you know wants to get where you are in life or in  business and take them under your wing.
The energy you will get from their passion will increase the passion you possess, and bring you new solutions to challenges.
As John Maxwell, a man that has many proteges says, he who thinks he leads , but has no followers, is only taking a walk.

4) A Best Friend
This person can be your mentor, your protege and if you are lucky and chose wisely this person could be your partner.  Maybe you inherited this person as a sibling or a parent or a child that you have a wonderful realtionship with.  If you have this person as someone else on your list you can combine these. Just because this isn’t your spouse that doesn’t mean you did something wrong, some people had the best friend first and have kept them forever.
The main task of this person in your life is to be the person that tells you yes when you ask do I look fat in this outfit. A best friend plays the role of shoulder to cry on when needed, kick in the pants when needed and the person that is always there to celebrate with you.

5)  A Peer
This is a pretty open ended sounding person to choose to have in your circle of 5 and yet this could be the one that makes all the difference in the world. Most of us spend more than half of our day awake with our peers. Who you choose to spend that time with when away from the other 4 people on your list matters and it matters a lot.

  • Who are you sharing books with?
  • Who are you sharing ideas with?
  • Who are you having lunch with at work? Are they heading to the fast food place or are they bringing a healthy choice to have for lunch.
  • Who brings that competitive gene out in you making you want to push a little more and be a little better?

Choosing the best choice for a peer partner to fill this spot could say more about you than any of the other people that you choose so make sure you spend your time with the right people.

Now that you know who we believe the 5 people you spend the most time with should be, do you know who these people are in your life already or do you think you need to make some changes?

Nothing is stopping you from growing into the person that you want to become. Just choose the 5 people that you spend the most time with and choose wisely!

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Chadalyst – Take a look at who you are spending the most time with over the next month and see who you are the average of.

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Your Journey is a Jigsaw

Forget what you have heard in the movies about life being like a box of chocolates and instead imagine that your life journey is a jigsaw puzzle.

If life were like a box of chocolates, it would make you fatter, give you a sugar high followed by the sugar crash and then leave you with the empty box. Nobody wants a life like that.

puzzle piecesThis is why we suggest you consider your journey as a jigsaw.

It starts as a mess
Life does start messy and confusing, just like starting your jigsaw puzzle. When most people go to begin a jigsaw puzzle they open the box and dump all of the pieces on the table. This leaves you with a pile of pieces. Some of these pieces will be upside down, and some are already stuck to another piece. Some of these pieces even manage to fall to the floor where they are hopefully rescued before they are thought missing.

We being to have some order
The first place most people will begin working on a puzzle is by turning all of the pieces face up and separating the edges and the corners from the other pieces. By doing this we begin to get order to the mess that was our puzzle. Just as in life, we start to learn and develop routine and feel like we have some order to everything.

We can start to see the Big Picture
As we create the border of our puzzle we are finally able to see the big picture coming together. We have taken the image on the box and have made it a reality. As we complete this stage of our puzzle we feel that sense of accomplishment and pride before we move on to the next challenge that is ahead of us.

We get to work
Now we dive into the puzzle. Some pieces click perfectly in our puzzle. Some pieces don’t seem to fit anywhere. We go through bursts of success where it just seems that the puzzle is putting itself together, to moments of frustration where we can’t find a piece no matter what we do. Hopefully this isn’t the piece you lost on the floor earlier in the process.

We achieve Success!
Finally that last piece drops into place and with a sigh of relief we look at our masterpiece. What was once trapped in a box, became a mess. From that mess came order and then a big picture. From that order came the magic of bringing everything together.

Now you have success and get to decide your next challenge and maybe start all over again.

  • Will you choose to redo the same puzzle again and again?
  • Will you choose to get one with more pieces or a more challenging image and push yourself?
  • Will you just leave the puzzle you have completed never wanting to take apart your hard work?

In life we find many messes that we can turn into a success.  Remember, life is not like a box of chocolates, life is like a puzzle waiting for you to solve it!puzzle piece

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6 Most Influential

The lists have been popping up all over the place.Influence

  • Top influencers in business
  • Top influencers on Twitter
  • Top 5000 influencers

All of the influential lists are created with some sort of guidelines. The challenge is that someone who is influential to you might not be influential to me or anyone else.

The dictionary tells us that influence is defined as: the capacity or power of persons or things to be a compelling force on or produce effects on the actions, behavior, opinions,etc…of others

Keeping all of that in mind, let’s now look at the people who should be influencers in your life. There is no scientific fact to this study at all. This is built from asking questions and listening closely to answers.

Remember as you work through this list, someone with influence, doesn’t mean they are a role model for you.

Here are the people who should in some way be on Your Most Influential list…

1) Your mom or dad (it is acceptable to have parents listed as one on your list or split them if you want)
Either one of your parents already made this list. They are either a person that you want to be like, or a person you don’t want to be like. Whichever it might be, they have influenced you every step of your life and shaped you to the person that you are today. One or both of your parents clearly have been a compelling force on you.

2) Your spouse/partner
Married or not married, there has been that partner along the way that influenced the way you looked at something. Did they open your mind to a different way of thinking? Did they have any effects on your actions, behavior or opinions?
Hopefully you are blessed that person became your spouse/partner and is still there doing this for you today.

3)A teacher
We all have had “that” teacher in our life that has been a huge influence leading you to where you are today. Maybe they pushed you harder than any other teacher because they saw something in you. Maybe they opened a door to an opportunity in your life. Maybe they introduced you to something that has become your passion.
Maybe you were lucky and it was your grade 1 teacher or maybe this came later in life and was a professor you had in university.

4)Best friend
You shouldn’t have to think too hard to figure this one out. This is the person that when you can’t call your spouse or your parents because you got in real trouble you will reach out to call. This person might actually have had the most influence on you and have changed your opinion on many different topics over the years.
We hope that you have this person in your life. Maybe it is also your spouse or one of your parents.

5)Work mate
This might be your boss. This could be the person at the cubicle beside you. Someone that makes you want to make that extra call, send that extra email, and stay those few extra moments each day. This person is clearly a compelling force on you.

6)Author/Speaker/Coach/Athlete
One of these people has been influential to you. Something you have read or heard or watched them do has had an impact on your actions. Do you work out harder because you see an athlete do something you know you can do? Do you live your life by a message that you got from a book you read? Were you moved to action from a presentation by a fantastic speaker at a conference or event?

Now you have a list of who should be on Your Most Influential list and stop chasing the people who are on someone else’s list!

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Chadalyst – Take a moment and write your list. Who is the person that fits each one of these six categories? And who else still should be added to your list? Reach out and thank these people for the influence they have had on your life.

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Play With a Full Deck

New Year’s resolutions…forget about them!
Instead we are here to help make this next year aces! There are 52 weeks in the year and 52 cards in a playing deck. Our goal is to make sure we are all playing with a full deck.

full deck

Often we start the year thinking about how to improve our business or how to improve our relationships or how to improve other external things. Our list gets long and overwhelming and we don’t accomplish what we set out to achieve. All of these things can be improved if we all start from the inside out.

Our goal has and always will be to help our readers grow. Thank you for being one of those readers and subscribers to this blog.

Each of our blogs ends with a Chadalyst, a thing that precipitates an event or change from Chad, and this blog is filled with them.

Let’s get to the challengeThere are 52 things on this list. We assigned a playing card to each one, randomly draw a card from a deck once a week and start working on the matching item. Challenge yourself to achieve as many of these as possible in the next year. These are in no specific order. heart

Hearts

Ace of Hearts Run a 5K
A short 3 mile run is something you can get up to speed for quickly. This isn’t a race, it is an experience. Donate some money to a good cause, get some great exercise and feel good inside and out.

2 of HeartsClean your closet
There are so many things in your closet that you don’t wear anymore and probably never will again. If you didn’t wear something over the past 12 months, clean it out of the closet and donate it. You will feel good inside and be able to get some new clothes to look good on the outside.

3 of Hearts Take a yoga class
Get your brain centered, get your body doing things you never thought possible. Yoga will help you get in shape and will help you find peace.

4 of Hearts Unplug for a weekend
We have become dependent upon technology. For a weekend, leave your phone behind. Don’t check in, don’t post, and don’t tweet. You deserve a weekend without the beeps and tweets.

5 of Hearts Help at a homeless shelter
There are others in need. Taking some time to donate time and help those less fortunate will help us all appreciate what we have and what we take for granted

6 of Hearts Read a self-help book
We all think we have it together and no matter how great things are, there are always other ways to look at anything. Take a moment and find a book to help us communicate better, help us understand each other better or whatever challenge you face.

7 of Hearts Read a fiction book and escape
Another way to unplug is to pick up a book and escape. There is nothing as powerful as our imagination and reading a fiction book lets us use that imagination. Who knows what new ideas you might find in a crime novel, a journey through time or a trip to another planet.

8 of Hearts Call someone
There is someone who you have wanted to talk to. There is someone who you haven’t spoken to in a while. There is someone you should pick up the phone and call.

9 of Hearts Send a hand written card
Emails and Facebook messages are great ways to stay in touch with people without much effort. Take a moment and show someone that they are important enough for you to hand write them a note or letter. Plus, isn’t it nice to get something in the mail other than a bill?

10 of Hearts Pay for the person behind you at the drive thru
We often go through the drive thru to start our day, on a busy lunch or to bring home dinner at the end of a long day with no time to cook. That means the person behind us is probably in the same boat. Start someone’s day on a high note, help someone else in a rush or make someone’s evening a little bit better.

Jack of Hearts Eat something new
Don’t ask what it is, just taste something that you have never eaten before. Open your mind and heart and in this case, your palate. You may never know what you enjoy once you get over what it is you are eating.

Queen of Hearts Attend a dance class
Even for those that are rhythmically challenged, this is a great way to connect with your life dance partner and have some laughs.

King of Hearts Learn a language
It is a challenge and will take more than a week to get this one done. Get started on something you have always wanted to do (we all do) and think of how it will make you a better person.

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Ace of ClubsTry a new recipe
We all get set in our ways and make the same 5-10 meals with very little change. Having broccoli instead of green beans is not a different meal. Grab a cookbook, ask a friend or even Google it. Find something new to make and surprise yourself.

2 of ClubsTake a 3 day weekend with someone important
One of the most valuable things you can give to someone is time. It is one of the things that we are limited on having and we never know when we have run out. Take a break and take a spouse, a family member or a friend and get out-of-town together.

3 of ClubsTake a nap
Who doesn’t want one of these? We all go go go and feel that a nap is something we don’t have the time for. Take the time and take a nap.

4 of ClubsBuild something
This could be something small like a(an) ______ all the way up to a new deck on the back of your home. Enjoy the feeling of creation and being able to appreciate your work for years to come.

5 of ClubsNo desserts
For some this is simple and for others a challenge. Go a week and have no desserts. That means no cookies at the office and no samples at the store. This might not be the best item to attempt to check off the list during the holiday season.

6 of ClubsReach 10,000 steps
Looking to improve your health in one of the easiest ways, walk 10,000 steps in a day. Pace back and forth while you are on the phone. Stretch your legs when you have a moment. Take a walk around the block. Reach 10,000 steps on a regular basis and your body will thank you.

7 of ClubsClean your garage
The first thing most people see when they get home is the garage. If you are not seeing yours, it is a good bet that it is too full and too much of a mess for you to use it. Start with one box at a time and after a box a day you will start to see changes in your garage and reclaim an area of your home.

8 of ClubsJournal
Clear your mind at the end of the day. Capture your thoughts, feelings and experiences in a private place for you or in a place that you can one day pass to someone else to know what it was that you were going through. Journaling will capture it all and help you sleep better.

9 of ClubsNo TV
Turn off the tube! Pull out a book (see items #__ and #___) play a board game, go for a walk. Whatever you do if you turn off the television you will quickly reclaim many hours of your week

10 of ClubsBe a kid again
Jump on a skate board. Go play in an arcade. Do something that reminds you of when you were a kid and having happy times. We all have our inner child waiting to come out and play.

Jack of ClubsSave an animal
Want to take a big leap on this one, go adopt an animal. You will wonder if you saved it or if it saved you. If you are not ready to take on the additional responsibility, take some time and volunteer at the local animal shelter. You will feel wonderful at the end of the day.

Queen of ClubsPlant a tree
A tree might be a little big for your space. If you can’t plant a tree, bring something green to your home and pot some flowers. Help nature grow and watch how it makes you feel better

King of ClubsNew hairstyle
Be daring. Got long hair, go cut it short. If you have always have had short hair, grow it out. Losing your hair (we know of what we speak) just take the plunge and shave it off.

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Ace of DiamondsGet extreme
Jump from a plane (with a parachute please) Go Scuba diving. Compete in a marathon. Do something this next year that reminds you the thrill that life can share when you push yourself to something extreme.

2 of DiamondsInterview a role model
Want to grow in many ways this year? Take a moment and interview a role model. Find someone doing something that you want to do. Someone that will be happy to share with you what they know. Remember that you are also a role model to others and be ready to continue to share that information

3 of DiamondsTake a hike
Get outside and breathe in some fresh air while exploring nature and getting some exercise. Sounds like a perfect way to clear your head for a day

4 of DiamondsPerform a random act of kindness
Hopefully you do this often. Hold a door open, help someone with full hands from a store, and shovel a driveway of a neighbor. Whatever it is you do, be intentional about finding someone to help

5 of DiamondsShop local
Support your local stores. Big box stores might have larger selections and it is our local stores that add culture to our towns. Get your coffee someplace local. Buy your next book from a local bookstore. Shop local and help your town.

6 of DiamondsAttend a live sporting event
Support your local team in any professional sport or even at the college level. Get out there, unwind and take in competition at its finest.

7 of DiamondsTake the stairs and skip all elevators/escalators
Use an extra moment and climb the stairs and get your blood pumping that little bit extra. You never know, you might start a trend.

8 of DiamondsDiscover a new band
Get out of your comfort zone of listening to the same groups again and again. Ask friends for suggestions, check out what Pandora shows as similar or dive into iTunes and find something different and push your mind.

9 of DiamondsSubscribe to a magazine for someone
Magazines are great learning tools. They bring information right to your mailbox monthly. Find a magazine you think someone would enjoy and send a subscription to them. They will think of you monthly.

10 of DiamondsTake a vacation
You’ve earned it. OK, maybe you haven’t and you should still take one. Just before a vacation we get focused and busy at work and then on a vacation we can unplug, unwind and create a memory that we otherwise would have missed

Jack of DiamondsLeave a huge tip
Ever work in the service industry? If you have you know that you can change someone’s day with an unexpectedly large tip. Never worked in the service industry, you should and then you would understand.

Queen of DiamondsMake friends with someone new
Meet your children’s friend’s parents. Meet someone you see at the coffee shop each morning. Make a new friend and see what doors open for both of you.

King of DiamondsSay thank you
You do this all the time as second nature (we hope) Be intentional about saying thank you to someone (or a group of some ones) that have impacted your life. Gratitude goes a long way

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Ace of SpadesSing karaoke
You might not be able to sing. You might have stage fright. Don’t worry most of the people who are there can’t sing either. Relax and enjoy a night of getting uncomfortable.

2 of SpadesSupport the arts
Every town has a local theatre. Take in a dance performance or a play that is going on. Encourage those that invest their time and talents and experience something magical

3 of SpadesCreate a work of art
Pull out those paints. Get some pencils and start sketching. You don’t have to make something to frame, just create and find amazing new answers to questions you have been stuck on.

4 of SpadesSpend a day with a child
Take your child for a day of just the two of you. Don’t have a child, borrow a niece or nephew. Children need role models and relationships. Take a day and work on developing yours.

5 of SpadesDownload a new app
Who knows what app. Open up the app store on your phone and download the top suggested or top free or go looking for an app that can help solve a problem you have. Technology is everywhere so embrace it.

6 of SpadesTake a friend out to dinner
Everyone eats. Take a friend and spend a meal together. Catch up, talk about life, and eat great food. You will be happy you did.

7 of SpadesGo on a road trip
Everywhere in the country has someplace close enough to make for a fun road trip. Jump in the car and off you go to create a memory and experience an adventure.

8 of SpadesLearn more about something you are interested in
With the growth of Google there is nothing out of reach anymore. Want to know more about Greek Mythology, Google it. Want to learn more about bridges, Google it. There is something you have wanted to know so take a moment and Google it.

9 of SpadesRepaint a room
Nothing will change a day more than a new color. Paint that bathroom, bedroom or office that you have been thinking about doing. It will give you a new lease on creativity.

10 of SpadesGive a gift to someone for no reason
We all feel better when we can make others feel better (believe it or not) Next time you see something that you know someone you know would enjoy, send it to them!

Jack of SpadesDrink water
Looking to improve your health and eat better, the first place to start is drinking those 8 cups of water a day. Get a bottle that holds 64oz and fill it. Drink it all before the day ends.

Queen of SpadesVisit an art gallery
Savor a moment surrounded by beautiful works of art and explore an art gallery. New thoughts will fill your mind and new solutions found

King of SpadesGo on a picnic
Nature is there for you to embrace and too often we enjoy nature out the window of our car or office. Grab your meal and grab a seat on the grass and enjoy a little time with Mother Nature. When was the last time you visited her?

Just draw one card from your deck a week and it will make for a wonderful year of growth and change. At the end of that year you will never be the same!

This challenge can be started at any time and does not have to start with a new year. Start today and good luck.

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You Do Judge a Book by its Cover

Don’t judge a book by its cover is a very well-known idiom. We all understand that is means we should not prejudge something (or someone) by outward appearance. There is the challenge that comes with this statement…we all prejudge. We our a society of people who make up their minds before hand.

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We decide things like:

  • if a meal will be good based on how it looks
  • if a movie is worth seeing based on the trailer
  • if a person is worth working with based on their appearance
  • and if a book is worth reading based on the cover

The challenge isn’t to stop prejudging, as that could be the thing that keeps you out of harm and dangerous situations at times. The challenge is what do you do next?

Once you have prejudged do you close your mind to other options? Do you stop listening to the opinion of others? Are you set in stone on your judgement and do you refuse to move forward and look at other possible results?

David had no chance to beat Goliath and still walked away with a famous victory.

The 1980 USA Hockey team was not only prejudged not to win a gold medal, they weren’t figured to win any medal at the event.

There are many examples of prejudging that has come back to be proven wrong again and again.

Someone was too short, too tall, too thin, too large, not attractive enough, not dressed well enough. This list could go on and on. You have probably prejudged someone or something already today.

Remember that sometimes people hope to distract you with a beautiful cover to their book. Driving a luxury car, living in a large home or dressed to the latest fashions. These things also don’t tell you the full story.

Keep an open mind everywhere and with everyone. Remember to take a moment and at least read a few pages before deciding what the “book” is about

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