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Here We Go Again

Doesn’t it feel like just yesterday we were saying it was too hot as the summer beat down on us? Maybe it was a week ago that we were excited to see the flowers blooming as Spring started? It couldn’t have been that long ago that we just celebrated the new year and yet here it is again. Before we know it, this new year ahead of us will have come and gone.

What can we do differently this time to make the next year even better than this one? Review it!

Review Most of the time we just press forward thinking that we can and should do the same things we have been doing and this time just do them better. That is rarely the case. If you could just do those things better wouldn’t you have already done that?

Before this year comes to an end go take an hour, a morning, a day and review this past year. Ask yourself some tough questions about the year.

Where did you spend your time?
Were you in your office space or were you elsewhere? Were you on Facebook or other websites too often? Were you with clients enough?
If you can figure out where you were, you can figure out where you should and shouldn’t be in the new year!

What did you do that worked and what did you do that did not work?
There were some events you hosted or attended that did great. There were some that in review were a clear waste of your time. There were some weeks that were extra successful and some weeks that you should have just stayed in bed.
What made these events work or these weeks so great? What was it that made you wish you could run and hide?

Who did you spend your time with and who should you have spent your time with?
Jim Rohn taught us that you are the average of the five people you spend the most time with. Who was that for you this year? Did you choose wisely? Who do you wish you had spent more time with so you could grow into the person you want to be?

They tell us that history is doomed to repeat itself. The same is true for us as well because we are doomed to repeat ourselves unless we learn the lessons and make the changes that allow us to breakthrough and grow!

Take the time to review your year and learn from it. You deserve it!

 

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3 Life Lessons in 1 minute

The great news is this posting has 3 powerful life lessons found within it. The not as great news is that it will take longer than 1 minute to read. The 1 minute in the title refers to the amount of time it took to experience and learn these lessons.

OTFThere I was working out at Orangetheory Fitness for a 5am session and feeling pretty good. It was an endurance day and our trainer for the morning, Jay, had me on the treadmill to start.

Jay would push all of us on the treadmills to a 3 minute block at a pace that was uncomfortable and then reward us with a break at a pace that was more comfortable. He continued this cycle with the reward times getting shorter and shorter.

After 15 minutes it was time to finish this block of running and Jay asked for us to give him 1 minute at our best possible speed and finish strong.

For those of you that know me outside of just reading my postings you know that I am determined and competitive. That being said I cranked the treadmill to the best speed I have ever run at and began my 1 minute ALL OUT!

30 seconds into my sprint I realized that I bit off more than I could chew, as my dad would have told me, and I had to jump off the racing belt of the treadmill as I was unable to continue.

It was at that moment that our trainer Jay leapt onto the back of my treadmill and began to encourage (yell) at me. He told me to get back on that treadmill and not to stop for anything. He told me to stop looking at the clock and just run until he told me I could stop. He told me there was nothing I couldn’t achieve if I put my head down and just ran!

And then finally Jay let all of us that were on the treadmills slow down and walk it out.

In that  minute, to be fair it was in the minutes after when I could reevaluate what had just happened, that I found these 3 powerful life lessons that will change me forever. I hope they help you without the need to go for a run.

1)We all need help to grow

Many of us believe we can do anything on our own. We don’t need help from others. Many of us are right, to a limit. Some of us have strong natural abilities in certain areas of life. Some of us are very entrepreneurial. When we become purposeful and we have someone to push us, someone hold us accountable or someone to care enough about us to tell us what we don’t always want to hear we can achieve breakthroughs and accomplish greater heights than we ever believed. In The ONE Thing this is referred to as Going from E to P. Remember, no one succeeds alone.

E to P

2)You must earn the right to be passionate for someone else’s goals

Jay had built a foundation with me based upon his credibility as a trainer, his authentic nature and his willingness to share. Jay has become a mentor to me in the area of personal health. Because of this he had the right to leap up on that treadmill and demand more from me.

Had Jay jumped up on the treadmill with someone who was in the class for the first time, they probably would have never returned.

Before you can help drive people towards their goals you must earn the right!

3)You can do anything for 30 seconds

If you have seen the movie We Bought a Zoo you heard Matt Damon playing Benjamin Mee tell his son that “sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.”

I believe that courage isn’t what is needed. Embarrassing bravery isn’t what is needed. All that is really needed is commitment. Commit to something for 30 seconds can attain it. Some things you might need to commit to for longer. For now, start with just 30 seconds!

Jay, thank you for the push, the all out, and the life lessons!

 

 

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7 ways to read more books in one year

The new year is upon us and many people make resolutions. Here’s hoping you did not as studies have shown us that most of them have sadly failed already.

Instead, during this year just make changes in your habits and your choices.

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One of the choices many people make at the start of the year is to read more. Reading is a great way to learn from the masters, escape on a vacation, solve a crime, improve your skills and focus your thoughts.

 

Here are some suggestions on how you can read more this year…

1)Read in the car.
We know that you shouldn’t text and drive, so you probably shouldn’t read and drive. What do we mean by this then? Listen to audiobooks when you are in the car.
The average person spends 25 minutes each way commuting each day. That means at least 1 chapter a day could be listened to. That means over the course of a month you could easily listen to 1 more book.

2)Read while working out.
Again, this is a hard one to do with an actual book while you run on the treadmill, lift weights or however you choose to work out. Once again then, plug-in to an audiobook and your cardio will pass by quicker and your weights won’t seem as heavy. A 30 minute workout means another handful of books over a year.

3)Read before bed daily.
Leave a book at your nightstand and read for  at least 10 minutes before you turn in for the night. If you are the person talking to this article right now and saying, “As soon as I lay down and read, I fall asleep” then don’t lay down in bed. Read in a chair, read sitting up, read in a different room.

4)Learn to speed read.

  • People that run fast seem to run more.
  • People that eat fast seem to eat more.
  • People that read faster seem to read more.

Sign up for a class to learn how to speed read. Even if you aren’t reading a page in 10 seconds, you will probably still read faster than you are now.

5)Leave a book in your bathroom.
We might not want to talk about this, and yet it is a room we visit in our home daily. Leave a book there, read 3 pages each time you are there. Before you know it, you will be hiding in your bathroom because you want to read more.

6)Carry a book with you.
You will end up waiting on someone daily. This might be the person making your drink at Starbucks, the appointment that is running late or on hold with the cable company. Have a book with you at all times and fill your wait, reading. Don’t want to carry a book everywhere you go? Use an app on your smart phone and carry hundreds!

7)Sign Up for Book Summaries
Some people might consider this cheating, although it is a fantastic way to get more information in less time. Let someone else read the book for you and share with you the 3-5 page review. This is just like using Cliff Notes in school. Nobody will know you didn’t read the full book as you will be able to explain all of the key points.

Using this suggestions and tips will have you reading more books this year. This will lead to the next challenge, how to remember all that you read.

Get a journal and write a ONE page review of each book when you are finished. At the end of the year, you will be able to review and read all of those books again in moments.

There is only one question left…what book will you read first?

 

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Overnight Success, or is it?

Success can be yours and it can be easier than you think to achieve it.

The biggest challenge that we have found people face when they are looking to become an overnight success is that they want it to actually happen overnight. There is no such thing as an overnight success. There is always work that must be done.

  • Overnight SuccessThe star athlete that comes out of nowhere probably put hours and hours of training in before you ever heard their name
  • The movie star that was discovered has probably been in acting classes at school or has some small parts on their resume
  • The business person that takes their idea to success, probably has had many jobs helping them get where they are overnight

The overnight success is rarely what it seems.

To achieve success, which you can, all you need to do is find the person a few steps ahead of you and follow them.

Most people are happy to have someone following them, as it pushes them to be better and makes them feel good to share. These same people will be happy for you as you continue to grow, even if that means passing them by. Remember, your level of success might not be the same as their level of success.

Here is an easy way to understand this concept…

Having grown up in a city that experienced snow 10 months of the year, or so it seemed, and never had a snow day from school we learned how to walk to the bus in knee-deep snow. We followed in the footsteps created by the person in front of us even if we couldn’t see them. Once we finally caught up to them, because it was easier for us then it was for them, we passed them and let them follow in our footsteps. If we were smart, we just looked for the next set of footprints to walk in and repeated the pattern.

This is how you create overnight success:

  1. Look for the person heading the same direction as you
  2. Follow in their footsteps until you catch up
  3. Pass them
  4. Find the next person heading in the direction you are now intending to go

Before you know it, you are an overnight success story and there is a line of people walking in your footsteps.

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Need help? Recruit it!

Sometimes it doesn’t matter how great you are at something, you still need help to reach the next level.

Bruce the squirrel is one of the most focussed animals I have ever had the chance to observe. Bruce hangs upside down to work the bird feeder and get what he is after. You can learn more about Bruce by reading Focus Found in This, Squirrel.

We solved our Bruce challenge as we moved the bird feeder to a place that no matter what he did he could not reach.Squirrel in tree

  • He jumped and fell
  • He hung upside down and stretched
  • He even bounced on the tree branch hoping to shake the bird feeder loose

Then Bruce finally found the solution he needed. He recruited talent. What does talent look like?

  • Talent has drive of its own
  • Talent has a skill set that you are needing
  • Talent has the ability to think and resolve issues without you

Bruce, found Robin. Robin the Chipmunk came to work with Bruce on solving the challenge of accessing all of the food in the bird feeder. Talent was found.

  • Robin has the same drive to find food and to eat as much as possible
  • Robin was lighter and smaller which allowed him to land on the bird feeder and not fall off
  • Robin was able to figure out the best way to the bird feeder after missing once or twice

Robin is talent and just what Bruce needed to succeed.

Now Robin jumps down from the tree branch and lands on the bird feeder and is light enough and small enough to slip onto the feeding platform without tipping it over. Robin eats until full and then spills extra food to the ground below.

As Robin does all of the hard work, Bruce sits below and waits for the food to fall and eats his unfair share without doing any of the hard work.

What is it in your life that you need to recruit help for?

  • Someone to read books and create summaries for you?
  • Someone to run daily errands and maintain your home?
  • Someone to work with your abundance of clients and make sure your customer service level is kept high?

Talent is out there for you to find. Just remember, talent is probably not sitting around reading online posts for job openings, talent is probably working and if you need help you will probably have to recruit it!

 

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What do you mean?

Have you ever said one thing and it was taken in a different way?misunderstanding

Maybe it was the wording you used or maybe it was the tone you used?

Fights have begun over simple misunderstandings that come from different interpretations of what is said and what was meant. Make sure you know your audience and are clear on what you mean.

Here are some simple examples of how one message can have different meanings depending on the people involved.

 

It’s all downhill from here. 

To some people this is a horrible term leading to the end of the ride. This is often used in a situation like a birthday milestone and telling someone, it is all downhill from here. Many people will hear this phrase as a negative.

On the other side of the coin

The origination of this phrase comes from climbing a hill and working hard to get to the top. Once at the top of the hill, it is all downhill from there. This could be the same for anyone looking to get over an obstacle.

 

I am saving my money.

We sent out an email to a large group of people about an amazing event that was coming to town and had an admission fee for this event. The email reply we got from one of the people we sent the message to was, I am saving my money.

Meaning that they were putting coins in a jar, digging through the sofa, buying less and saving their money so they could attend the session?

On the other side of the coin

I am saving my money could have meant that they saw no value in the course that was coming and they were saving their money by not attending. This must have been the case, because they never registered or showed up

 

I am grateful for nothing.

I made a posting on Facebook the other day and it simply said, I am grateful for nothing.

My phone started to light up as text messages started to show up asking what was wrong and was everything ok. It seems that those people heard a meaning that sounded like I had nothing in my life worth being grateful for, which is as far from the truth as possible.

On the other side of the coin

All I was saying was that my family had sat around the house and rested after a few days of go, go, go.  In other words we had done nothing for a day, and I was extremely grateful for it!

Be careful in what you say (or type as a Facebook posting and an email can create the same challenge) and just as importantly be careful in how you hear or read something.

Always remember to come from curiosity and ask if you are unsure.

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High Low Know Go

Have you ever been in a position where you lead others and are not sure how to get the best out of them?

Have you ever found yourself needing to host a job review?

Have you ever had to coach or consult someone and you weren’t even sure where to begin?

 

This is where the HIGH-LOW-KNOW-GO plan comes into play.

 

HIGH

Start the conversation off talking about the high point of the day, the week, the month, or the regular review period.

Ask for your client, staff member or team member to share what they believe is the high point and talk about it that for a few moments. See what makes them light up.

  • Was it  an interaction with a specific person?
  • Was it learning a new skill?
  • Was it helping someone solve a challenge?

As you learn about what they think was the high point you will learn even more about this person. You will understand their natural strengths and be able to help them end up in a role that will fit them like a glove.

After they have shared their thoughts, let them know what you thought the high point was for them.

  • What did they do that stood out to you?
  • What have you heard from other people they did well?

By starting the conversation with a high you will create a much more relaxed environment.

 

LOW

If we look at the high point, we should be honest and take a moment to talk about the low point. There will always be one no matter how great the person is we are talking with.

This could be many things such as:

  • a failure in communication
  • a lack of following up on something
  • not reaching a goal
  • maybe it is an outside issue like something happening at home that is impacting their work.

By taking the time to listen to them as they share their low point you will see where they feel they are currently failing. Do not attempt to talk them down from a ledge, just hear them and lead them on how to handle that situation better in the future. This will help your people grow and assist you as being looked at as someone who truly cares for them.

After they share their low point, you must follow and have the hard conversation of sharing your low point with them.

  • Did they miss a deadline or quota?
  • Did they gossip and cause issues around your office?
  • Did they not follow through on something you were counting on them doing?

By sharing your low point for them and hearing their low point you will find yourself developing a stronger relationship with those you work with. You will also allow them to clearly learn what you believe is important in their role.

 

KNOW

What do they need to know that they do not already? Some people will think that they know enough and if that is the person you are working with you have learned that they are not learning based and might not be what you want on your team. Someone in a role for a long time might need to learn a new way to do something, a new skill that has become required. Someone new to a role will have a lot to know as they grow into the position.

  • Is it a book they should start reading?
  • Is this a class they need to sign up for?
  • Is this a video they should watch?
  • Is this something they need to be asking many people to get different answers so they can know what could be done in a specific situation?

Help them again self discover what they need to know, and then help them figure out where to find the answer.

 

GO

Many consultations or reviews are places where people talk a lot and action is not always taken and our goal is to just get the meeting over with and make everyone feel good about themselves.

What is it that they should GO do after the meeting?

  • Should they  go complete a task they should have had done already?
  • Should they go and work on something that will help them fix their low point?
  • Should they go speak with someone?

Whatever it is that they should go do, help them self discover what it is for them and help them accomplish it. When they tell you what it is they are going to do, don’t take it away from them, just help them to make sure the go isn’t them avoiding a true task.

By now you are catching on to the pattern here and can guess that you should share with them what it is that you would like to see them go and do to move forward in their position.

To finish the HIGH-LOW-KNOW-GO you should challenge them to know something specific before your next meeting together

 

If you take your team, staff, family and clients through the HIGH-LOW-GO-KNOW system on a regular basis, your people will know you care, want to go through a wall for you and have your back through all of the highs and the lows!

 

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Play With a Full Deck

New Year’s resolutions…forget about them!
Instead we are here to help make this next year aces! There are 52 weeks in the year and 52 cards in a playing deck. Our goal is to make sure we are all playing with a full deck.

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Often we start the year thinking about how to improve our business or how to improve our relationships or how to improve other external things. Our list gets long and overwhelming and we don’t accomplish what we set out to achieve. All of these things can be improved if we all start from the inside out.

Our goal has and always will be to help our readers grow. Thank you for being one of those readers and subscribers to this blog.

Each of our blogs ends with a Chadalyst, a thing that precipitates an event or change from Chad, and this blog is filled with them.

Let’s get to the challengeThere are 52 things on this list. We assigned a playing card to each one, randomly draw a card from a deck once a week and start working on the matching item. Challenge yourself to achieve as many of these as possible in the next year. These are in no specific order. heart

Hearts

Ace of Hearts Run a 5K
A short 3 mile run is something you can get up to speed for quickly. This isn’t a race, it is an experience. Donate some money to a good cause, get some great exercise and feel good inside and out.

2 of HeartsClean your closet
There are so many things in your closet that you don’t wear anymore and probably never will again. If you didn’t wear something over the past 12 months, clean it out of the closet and donate it. You will feel good inside and be able to get some new clothes to look good on the outside.

3 of Hearts Take a yoga class
Get your brain centered, get your body doing things you never thought possible. Yoga will help you get in shape and will help you find peace.

4 of Hearts Unplug for a weekend
We have become dependent upon technology. For a weekend, leave your phone behind. Don’t check in, don’t post, and don’t tweet. You deserve a weekend without the beeps and tweets.

5 of Hearts Help at a homeless shelter
There are others in need. Taking some time to donate time and help those less fortunate will help us all appreciate what we have and what we take for granted

6 of Hearts Read a self-help book
We all think we have it together and no matter how great things are, there are always other ways to look at anything. Take a moment and find a book to help us communicate better, help us understand each other better or whatever challenge you face.

7 of Hearts Read a fiction book and escape
Another way to unplug is to pick up a book and escape. There is nothing as powerful as our imagination and reading a fiction book lets us use that imagination. Who knows what new ideas you might find in a crime novel, a journey through time or a trip to another planet.

8 of Hearts Call someone
There is someone who you have wanted to talk to. There is someone who you haven’t spoken to in a while. There is someone you should pick up the phone and call.

9 of Hearts Send a hand written card
Emails and Facebook messages are great ways to stay in touch with people without much effort. Take a moment and show someone that they are important enough for you to hand write them a note or letter. Plus, isn’t it nice to get something in the mail other than a bill?

10 of Hearts Pay for the person behind you at the drive thru
We often go through the drive thru to start our day, on a busy lunch or to bring home dinner at the end of a long day with no time to cook. That means the person behind us is probably in the same boat. Start someone’s day on a high note, help someone else in a rush or make someone’s evening a little bit better.

Jack of Hearts Eat something new
Don’t ask what it is, just taste something that you have never eaten before. Open your mind and heart and in this case, your palate. You may never know what you enjoy once you get over what it is you are eating.

Queen of Hearts Attend a dance class
Even for those that are rhythmically challenged, this is a great way to connect with your life dance partner and have some laughs.

King of Hearts Learn a language
It is a challenge and will take more than a week to get this one done. Get started on something you have always wanted to do (we all do) and think of how it will make you a better person.

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Ace of ClubsTry a new recipe
We all get set in our ways and make the same 5-10 meals with very little change. Having broccoli instead of green beans is not a different meal. Grab a cookbook, ask a friend or even Google it. Find something new to make and surprise yourself.

2 of ClubsTake a 3 day weekend with someone important
One of the most valuable things you can give to someone is time. It is one of the things that we are limited on having and we never know when we have run out. Take a break and take a spouse, a family member or a friend and get out-of-town together.

3 of ClubsTake a nap
Who doesn’t want one of these? We all go go go and feel that a nap is something we don’t have the time for. Take the time and take a nap.

4 of ClubsBuild something
This could be something small like a(an) ______ all the way up to a new deck on the back of your home. Enjoy the feeling of creation and being able to appreciate your work for years to come.

5 of ClubsNo desserts
For some this is simple and for others a challenge. Go a week and have no desserts. That means no cookies at the office and no samples at the store. This might not be the best item to attempt to check off the list during the holiday season.

6 of ClubsReach 10,000 steps
Looking to improve your health in one of the easiest ways, walk 10,000 steps in a day. Pace back and forth while you are on the phone. Stretch your legs when you have a moment. Take a walk around the block. Reach 10,000 steps on a regular basis and your body will thank you.

7 of ClubsClean your garage
The first thing most people see when they get home is the garage. If you are not seeing yours, it is a good bet that it is too full and too much of a mess for you to use it. Start with one box at a time and after a box a day you will start to see changes in your garage and reclaim an area of your home.

8 of ClubsJournal
Clear your mind at the end of the day. Capture your thoughts, feelings and experiences in a private place for you or in a place that you can one day pass to someone else to know what it was that you were going through. Journaling will capture it all and help you sleep better.

9 of ClubsNo TV
Turn off the tube! Pull out a book (see items #__ and #___) play a board game, go for a walk. Whatever you do if you turn off the television you will quickly reclaim many hours of your week

10 of ClubsBe a kid again
Jump on a skate board. Go play in an arcade. Do something that reminds you of when you were a kid and having happy times. We all have our inner child waiting to come out and play.

Jack of ClubsSave an animal
Want to take a big leap on this one, go adopt an animal. You will wonder if you saved it or if it saved you. If you are not ready to take on the additional responsibility, take some time and volunteer at the local animal shelter. You will feel wonderful at the end of the day.

Queen of ClubsPlant a tree
A tree might be a little big for your space. If you can’t plant a tree, bring something green to your home and pot some flowers. Help nature grow and watch how it makes you feel better

King of ClubsNew hairstyle
Be daring. Got long hair, go cut it short. If you have always have had short hair, grow it out. Losing your hair (we know of what we speak) just take the plunge and shave it off.

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Ace of DiamondsGet extreme
Jump from a plane (with a parachute please) Go Scuba diving. Compete in a marathon. Do something this next year that reminds you the thrill that life can share when you push yourself to something extreme.

2 of DiamondsInterview a role model
Want to grow in many ways this year? Take a moment and interview a role model. Find someone doing something that you want to do. Someone that will be happy to share with you what they know. Remember that you are also a role model to others and be ready to continue to share that information

3 of DiamondsTake a hike
Get outside and breathe in some fresh air while exploring nature and getting some exercise. Sounds like a perfect way to clear your head for a day

4 of DiamondsPerform a random act of kindness
Hopefully you do this often. Hold a door open, help someone with full hands from a store, and shovel a driveway of a neighbor. Whatever it is you do, be intentional about finding someone to help

5 of DiamondsShop local
Support your local stores. Big box stores might have larger selections and it is our local stores that add culture to our towns. Get your coffee someplace local. Buy your next book from a local bookstore. Shop local and help your town.

6 of DiamondsAttend a live sporting event
Support your local team in any professional sport or even at the college level. Get out there, unwind and take in competition at its finest.

7 of DiamondsTake the stairs and skip all elevators/escalators
Use an extra moment and climb the stairs and get your blood pumping that little bit extra. You never know, you might start a trend.

8 of DiamondsDiscover a new band
Get out of your comfort zone of listening to the same groups again and again. Ask friends for suggestions, check out what Pandora shows as similar or dive into iTunes and find something different and push your mind.

9 of DiamondsSubscribe to a magazine for someone
Magazines are great learning tools. They bring information right to your mailbox monthly. Find a magazine you think someone would enjoy and send a subscription to them. They will think of you monthly.

10 of DiamondsTake a vacation
You’ve earned it. OK, maybe you haven’t and you should still take one. Just before a vacation we get focused and busy at work and then on a vacation we can unplug, unwind and create a memory that we otherwise would have missed

Jack of DiamondsLeave a huge tip
Ever work in the service industry? If you have you know that you can change someone’s day with an unexpectedly large tip. Never worked in the service industry, you should and then you would understand.

Queen of DiamondsMake friends with someone new
Meet your children’s friend’s parents. Meet someone you see at the coffee shop each morning. Make a new friend and see what doors open for both of you.

King of DiamondsSay thank you
You do this all the time as second nature (we hope) Be intentional about saying thank you to someone (or a group of some ones) that have impacted your life. Gratitude goes a long way

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Ace of SpadesSing karaoke
You might not be able to sing. You might have stage fright. Don’t worry most of the people who are there can’t sing either. Relax and enjoy a night of getting uncomfortable.

2 of SpadesSupport the arts
Every town has a local theatre. Take in a dance performance or a play that is going on. Encourage those that invest their time and talents and experience something magical

3 of SpadesCreate a work of art
Pull out those paints. Get some pencils and start sketching. You don’t have to make something to frame, just create and find amazing new answers to questions you have been stuck on.

4 of SpadesSpend a day with a child
Take your child for a day of just the two of you. Don’t have a child, borrow a niece or nephew. Children need role models and relationships. Take a day and work on developing yours.

5 of SpadesDownload a new app
Who knows what app. Open up the app store on your phone and download the top suggested or top free or go looking for an app that can help solve a problem you have. Technology is everywhere so embrace it.

6 of SpadesTake a friend out to dinner
Everyone eats. Take a friend and spend a meal together. Catch up, talk about life, and eat great food. You will be happy you did.

7 of SpadesGo on a road trip
Everywhere in the country has someplace close enough to make for a fun road trip. Jump in the car and off you go to create a memory and experience an adventure.

8 of SpadesLearn more about something you are interested in
With the growth of Google there is nothing out of reach anymore. Want to know more about Greek Mythology, Google it. Want to learn more about bridges, Google it. There is something you have wanted to know so take a moment and Google it.

9 of SpadesRepaint a room
Nothing will change a day more than a new color. Paint that bathroom, bedroom or office that you have been thinking about doing. It will give you a new lease on creativity.

10 of SpadesGive a gift to someone for no reason
We all feel better when we can make others feel better (believe it or not) Next time you see something that you know someone you know would enjoy, send it to them!

Jack of SpadesDrink water
Looking to improve your health and eat better, the first place to start is drinking those 8 cups of water a day. Get a bottle that holds 64oz and fill it. Drink it all before the day ends.

Queen of SpadesVisit an art gallery
Savor a moment surrounded by beautiful works of art and explore an art gallery. New thoughts will fill your mind and new solutions found

King of SpadesGo on a picnic
Nature is there for you to embrace and too often we enjoy nature out the window of our car or office. Grab your meal and grab a seat on the grass and enjoy a little time with Mother Nature. When was the last time you visited her?

Just draw one card from your deck a week and it will make for a wonderful year of growth and change. At the end of that year you will never be the same!

This challenge can be started at any time and does not have to start with a new year. Start today and good luck.

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You Do Judge a Book by its Cover

Don’t judge a book by its cover is a very well-known idiom. We all understand that is means we should not prejudge something (or someone) by outward appearance. There is the challenge that comes with this statement…we all prejudge. We our a society of people who make up their minds before hand.

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We decide things like:

  • if a meal will be good based on how it looks
  • if a movie is worth seeing based on the trailer
  • if a person is worth working with based on their appearance
  • and if a book is worth reading based on the cover

The challenge isn’t to stop prejudging, as that could be the thing that keeps you out of harm and dangerous situations at times. The challenge is what do you do next?

Once you have prejudged do you close your mind to other options? Do you stop listening to the opinion of others? Are you set in stone on your judgement and do you refuse to move forward and look at other possible results?

David had no chance to beat Goliath and still walked away with a famous victory.

The 1980 USA Hockey team was not only prejudged not to win a gold medal, they weren’t figured to win any medal at the event.

There are many examples of prejudging that has come back to be proven wrong again and again.

Someone was too short, too tall, too thin, too large, not attractive enough, not dressed well enough. This list could go on and on. You have probably prejudged someone or something already today.

Remember that sometimes people hope to distract you with a beautiful cover to their book. Driving a luxury car, living in a large home or dressed to the latest fashions. These things also don’t tell you the full story.

Keep an open mind everywhere and with everyone. Remember to take a moment and at least read a few pages before deciding what the “book” is about

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6 Warning Signs That You Are Using Social Media Wrong

We have heard from many “gurus” “experts” and even “ninjas” about making sure we develop relationships on social media. Do any of them really help us figure out how to use Social Media correctly or do they just come up with cool sounding titles for themselves?

Where else can you post to 1 billion users? How many other places are there that you can tweet to millions of people? Are there other places to connect with that many other professionals without even getting out of bed?

Facebook, Twitter, LinkedIn and so many other platforms have come onto the scene and every company is looking to social media to solve all of their challenges.

Here is a list of 6 warning signs that you are using social media wrong AND tips to help you with each of them so you can move in the right direction.

1) Your profile is not up to date
The first thing that people learn about you is what you have in your profile. If you are not up to date, then you are doing it wrong! Check to be sure you have the important jobs showing up and not all of the odd jobs you have had.
What about your contact info? If you are hoping to have people reach out and contact you make sure you are openly sharing your correct contact information. Get over the issue of someone might spam you!

Now let’s take a look at some of the things that you are posting, tweeting, and sharing on the different social media platforms and the warning signs that you are using social media wrong…

2)It is all about you
Take a look at your recent postings. Are they all about the wonderful things you are doing? Then you are doing it wrong. Make sure you are helping others solve problems. Make sure you are you sharing with others something you learned, read or saw. Make sure you remember that success on social media comes from listening, not talking

3)You post and run
When you do post something of value and people comment or retweet your posting do you return to engage with them? If you aren’t then you are doing it wrong. Take a moment to say thank you, to answer the follow-up question, to stay part of the conversation.
4)You are in it for the Klout perks
The point of a posting or a tweet is to share and engage, not get 500 people to like something so your Klout score can climb. If that is why you are posting, then you are doing it wrong! It is better to have 5 people comment and engage with you fully then 500 people comment and not really care. Care about Klout, then get Klout Klarity
5)You tag everyone for no reason
Are you are the person posting a photo, making a comment or writing a tweet and tagging or mentioning everyone possible for no reason other than you hope they will engage with you? You are doing it wrong! Tag people in photos with you. Tag someone who you are talking about. Mention someone who you are engaging with. Do not just tag hoping people pay attention to you.
6)You are extremely negative
Everyone has a bad day. If you are having a bad life and sharing it all the time, you are doing it wrong! Be transparent on social media and don’t post about some perfect life you aren’t really living. Don’t be the person that never has anything positive to say and wants to complain and bring everyone else down.

You can do it right and these 6 Warning Signs That You Are Using Social Media Wrong should help you make steps in the right direction.

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