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Halloween or your life

Halloween is the perfect way to look at your life and the perfect time to make some changes because you don’t have to wait for New Year’s Eve for that.

Each year we dress up in crazy costumes (some of you crazier than others) and shed our inhibitions and get out there. Maybe it is the safety of the costume or maybe it is just the fact that for a night we don’t listen to that little voice in our heads.

Out we go, meeting our neighbors finally and saying hello to complete strangers. We go with one script in mind…Trick or Treat.

Of course we know that we are getting a treat. When was the last time you got a trick performed for you?

You go door to door (or store to store in the shopping mall now) and repeat the same script again and again and again.

When the night is over, you have a bag filled with candy. How much candy is up to you as it depends on how focused you were or how slow you went through the night.

Now the important part…you sort through the candy. Some of it is great and some of it is not so great. Remember that even not so great candy, is still candy! The only thing that you throw away are the toothbrushes and the candy that was melted.

This should be your life! Don’t believe us? Let’s take a look…

  • You dress up in crazy costumes – you dress up for work (maybe not as crazy, then again for some of you maybe crazier)
  • You should get out there to meet your neighbors and perfect strangers as no matter what business you are in you are always looking for new clients.
  • You should know your scripts as well as you know Trick or Treat! What will you say about yourself, about your product or about what you do all day long
  • You know what to say that your candy bag gets filled. In this case it is with business contacts, phone numbers or new people to add to your networking
  • You sort the candy bag. Some of those people are great people to know and some are not so great. Remember even a not so great contact in still a new contact!

Celebrate Halloween each and every day in your life and you will find your candy bag full!

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Chadalyst  Go trick or treat and don’t come back until you have enough candy for the day (we mean, go meet people and don’t stop until you have met enough people or at least the right person for your business!)

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NO is a Four Letter Word

No No No No No No No No No No. How do you feel now? Are you bleeding from anywhere? Is anything broken? Should we get you to a doctor right away?

No cannot hurt you. It is just a simple word that most of us are trained to say since a young age. Think back, and no is the word you probably heard the most often in your life.

No don’t touch that
No don’t open that
No don’t eat that!

Many of the sentences that our parents and teachers and even friends used started with the word no.

Think about anytime recently that someone asked you something or challenged you on something. Was the first word out of your mouth a no?

It is time to stop looking at no as a negative word and think of it as the four letter word it should be – good

If you never heard the word no you would never challenge yourself to learn more and to grow. Everything would be a yes and life would be simple and you would be comfortable with whatever you had and stop there. A no pushes you and that is good!

If you never heard the word no everyone would be succeeding the same. A no stops some people and allows others to find the next step needed. As we know you are a success already, you want to continue to stand out from others right? When you have heard a no you have used that to find the next yes and that is good and what helps set you apart.

If you have ever heard the word no then you have had to made a decision in your life. A decision to grow or a decision to accept the no and go on a different path. Whichever you have chosen it is good!

A no is a good thing to hear. Make it a goal to get at least 10 no’s in a day. If you can get those 10 no’s the yes that you earn will be worth it!

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You are someone’s role model

You are a role model.

This isn’t a job position that you apply for.

There is no application that you had to have filled out.

Someone out there is watching you and learning from you with everything that you are doing.

You might not even know who it is that is paying attention to you. You might not have any idea when they are watching you.

You are always on duty and there is no end to this shift.

  • You might be a mentor to a child in your home watching what you choose as priorities.
  • You might be a mentor to someone at work watching to see what level of achievement you are setting
  • You might be a mentor to a someone who you don’t really know and they watch everything you do online

It could be someone in your neighborhood, someone at a store you stop at frequently or even a pet in your household that learns from your mood and temper. You might never know who it is and it might be more than one person.

How can you set a good example and be the role model you want to be?

  • Do a good deed by holding a door open for someone and maybe it sends a message to someone who sees it happen as well as the person you assisted.
  • Pay for the car behind you at the drive through window and you could impact the server at the window and the people in the car behind you.
  • Give a moment to help feed the homeless and you are setting an example for everyone in your life as well as being a mentor to everyone there to eat.

The question to ask yourself with every action you choose is, what sort of example are you setting for others?

Chadalyst – Stop and take a moment to think of someone who you know you are a mentor to. What message are you sending them? Is it the message you want them to remember?

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6 pack of learning from one of the most inspiring sources…a dog

We all look to the so-called experts on self-improvement, leadership and mindset for help. If we just took a moment to stop and look at what is around us we would be amazed at what we could learn.

That is just what we did and as we sat to put this blog together. We found the greatest inspiration we could imagine…a dog! With just watching Whistler (our dog) for a short time we were able to take away this refreshing 6 pack of lessons.

1)Give love and get love
Everyone wants someone to spend their lives with. Even those of you reading this saying not me, when the right person comes into your life you will change that thought. This goes for a dog as well. They are just looking for the right family to become a part of and once they find it they will give unconditional love to that family forever. Excitement when you walk in the door. Kisses (or a lot of licking) when you just sitting near them. Putting their head in your lap and knowing that they are safe with you. What do you do when this happens? You return the love and start petting them, which is all they wanted, your love in return.
The lesson to remember – if you want to find love and continue to experience love, make sure it starts with you as you give love first

2)Bury your treasures
Many of us lose what we have because we just leave it where we can see it. We don’t mean that someone steals it from you, although that can happen, we mean that most of us don’t save for that rainy day in our life. Give a dog a bone and they are off chewing and enjoying that bone. When they are done with it they don’t just leave it lying around, they find a great place to bury that bone so nobody else can take it from them. When the day comes that they want that bone, it is hidden and waiting for them.
The lesson to remember – save! Put some of that extra money aside for a time when you need it or for a goal that you are working towards

3)Loyalty rewards
We shop at certain stores all the time and they give us points to keep coming back. They reward us for our loyalty. Is there anyone as loyal as a good dog? Your dog is always there for you at a moments notice and will defend you from strangers. A dog shows such loyalty that most people consider their dog family. At the same time many of us have family members ready to take advantage of us at a moments notice. Maybe a dog is even better than just being a family member.
The lesson to remember – be loyal. To a brand, to a store, and most importantly to friends, family and others that you have let into your life as it will all come back as a reward when you least expect it.

4) Don’t worry be happy
A dog isn’t worried about where their next meal is coming from or when their next bath might happen. They aren’t thinking about possibly having a meeting with the other dog in the neighborhood. They are living in the moment, taking a nap, enjoy the sun or whatever they are doing. As a person we have to deal with life and that we remember lesson #2  from our dog. This is not a reason to focus on the stress and we all need to the pleasure of the moment we are in.
The lesson to remember – enjoy the moment and don’t stress over things you will not be able to control

5)Energy Explosion
A quiet moment is interrupted by the excitement of a dog that has decided that now is the best time to run in circles around the backyard. You might think that Whistler is training to be a horse at the barrel races or that she can go back in time if she just runs fast enough. The moment passes and with no energy left in her tank she finds a quiet place to lay down and take a short nap.
The lesson to remember – don’t leave anything in your tank! Use that energy, give it your all, and then after, find your favorite way to recharge before you go for it all over again!

6)Training Pleasures
There are two types of dogs, the type that are not trained well and drive everyone crazy and the ones that are trained and learn to behave and are loved for it. A dog wants to please and that means understanding what you are asking it to do. Train your dog. Let them learn to not jump on people, not bark all night long and to sit, fetch and any other trick. As the dog does what you ask they will be happier for it and so will you. Often they will even end up with an extra pat on the head or a treat and enjoy the reward of having been trained.
The lesson to remember – it doesn’t matter if you are a teacher, a doctor, a salesperson, a stay at home parent or anything else, training matters. Get extra training in your area of specialty and you will be better at what you do and you will be rewarded for it.

Chadalyst – Pick the lesson that you should focus on the most and make a plan for what you are going to do over the next week to work on that lesson.

Share in the comments below what you have learned from your dog.

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall

The first image that goes through your mind when you hear those words of, “mirror, mirror on the wall” is probably the evil queen from Snow White. While the Evil Queen was just that, evil, the mirror was not. The Magic Mirror spoke nothing other than the truth. As we know from the story the mirror tells the queen that she is the fairest in the land, until the day that Snow White becomes of age.

We are not here to discuss the story of Snow White or cover the classic tale of good versus evil. Instead we are here to look deeper into that mirror.

When you look into the mirror what question is it that you ask? Are you asking who is the fairest in the land? Are you asking where your hair has gone or where those strange new hairs came from? Are you asking what lies ahead for you or maybe you are asking what you did with all of those days that have already passed.

The questions are important and the answer is really what we are here to take a look at. As the Magic Mirror always did, your mirror does the same when it answers you. It answers you honestly.

When you ask the mirror about the spare tire around your midsection, it is your choices that helped that tire grow and your choice that keep the tire there.

When you ask for confidence or beauty, do you see a confident person or a beautiful person or are you not having that confidence in your beauty and seeing neither when you look at the reflection?

Stand up to that mirror and start getting the answers that you want!

You ARE confident
You ARE beautiful
You ARE unstoppable
You ARE all of that and more!
Now…believe it when you look into that mirror and that is the answer that will come back to you!

Are you willing to look into that mirror and ask the tough question? More importantly are you willing to hear the answers?

Chadalyst -What do you want to change the most? Go look into your mirror and let it know what is coming!

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