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Comeback – Are you ready for yours?

It is the 4th quarter of the year finally!

You work hard all year-long to be ready to pop the champagne and celebrate a successful winning season. The question is have you eliminated yourself before the year even ends or are you ready for the big push?

Have you taken the season and given up, and said, wait for next year, like a Chicago Cubs fan?
Are you someone who takes a set back like Bethany Hamilton did after her surfing career was put on hold due to an act of nature, and finds a way to come back and reach the goals you had set for yourself?
Are you a believer that anything can happen and that like Team USA in the America’s Cup this year you can still pull off a win even if it seems impossible?

Take a look back to the start of the year. What were your resolutions or goals for the year?

  • reach a specific sales plateau
  • lose a certain amount of weight
  • have a target amount in a savings account

Whatever your goal was for this year, it doesn’t matter how far behind you are you can still push forward and comeback to win.

Remember the Buffalo Bills in ’93 as they were able to come back from a 35-3 deficit to the greatest NFL comeback and win 41-38.
What the Boston Red Sox come back from 0-3 in the ALCS of 2004 against the New York Yankees and how that propelled them to their first World Series Championship in 86 years.Finish Strong

You can do the same thing!

If your desire to win is strong enough the opportunity is always there to finish the year on a winning note.

  • How many extra calls do you need to make or extra people do you need to meet for that sales goal?
  • Step up the workout program, or finally step into a gym at least, and cut out that extra snack to fight for the weight goal
  • Check the budget, push hard at work and the savings account will grow before the year ends

The best teams, the best coaches and the best of the best are the ones that make the most of the 4th quarter.

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Play With a Full Deck

New Year’s resolutions…forget about them!
Instead we are here to help make this next year aces! There are 52 weeks in the year and 52 cards in a playing deck. Our goal is to make sure we are all playing with a full deck.

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Often we start the year thinking about how to improve our business or how to improve our relationships or how to improve other external things. Our list gets long and overwhelming and we don’t accomplish what we set out to achieve. All of these things can be improved if we all start from the inside out.

Our goal has and always will be to help our readers grow. Thank you for being one of those readers and subscribers to this blog.

Each of our blogs ends with a Chadalyst, a thing that precipitates an event or change from Chad, and this blog is filled with them.

Let’s get to the challengeThere are 52 things on this list. We assigned a playing card to each one, randomly draw a card from a deck once a week and start working on the matching item. Challenge yourself to achieve as many of these as possible in the next year. These are in no specific order. heart

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Ace of Hearts Run a 5K
A short 3 mile run is something you can get up to speed for quickly. This isn’t a race, it is an experience. Donate some money to a good cause, get some great exercise and feel good inside and out.

2 of HeartsClean your closet
There are so many things in your closet that you don’t wear anymore and probably never will again. If you didn’t wear something over the past 12 months, clean it out of the closet and donate it. You will feel good inside and be able to get some new clothes to look good on the outside.

3 of Hearts Take a yoga class
Get your brain centered, get your body doing things you never thought possible. Yoga will help you get in shape and will help you find peace.

4 of Hearts Unplug for a weekend
We have become dependent upon technology. For a weekend, leave your phone behind. Don’t check in, don’t post, and don’t tweet. You deserve a weekend without the beeps and tweets.

5 of Hearts Help at a homeless shelter
There are others in need. Taking some time to donate time and help those less fortunate will help us all appreciate what we have and what we take for granted

6 of Hearts Read a self-help book
We all think we have it together and no matter how great things are, there are always other ways to look at anything. Take a moment and find a book to help us communicate better, help us understand each other better or whatever challenge you face.

7 of Hearts Read a fiction book and escape
Another way to unplug is to pick up a book and escape. There is nothing as powerful as our imagination and reading a fiction book lets us use that imagination. Who knows what new ideas you might find in a crime novel, a journey through time or a trip to another planet.

8 of Hearts Call someone
There is someone who you have wanted to talk to. There is someone who you haven’t spoken to in a while. There is someone you should pick up the phone and call.

9 of Hearts Send a hand written card
Emails and Facebook messages are great ways to stay in touch with people without much effort. Take a moment and show someone that they are important enough for you to hand write them a note or letter. Plus, isn’t it nice to get something in the mail other than a bill?

10 of Hearts Pay for the person behind you at the drive thru
We often go through the drive thru to start our day, on a busy lunch or to bring home dinner at the end of a long day with no time to cook. That means the person behind us is probably in the same boat. Start someone’s day on a high note, help someone else in a rush or make someone’s evening a little bit better.

Jack of Hearts Eat something new
Don’t ask what it is, just taste something that you have never eaten before. Open your mind and heart and in this case, your palate. You may never know what you enjoy once you get over what it is you are eating.

Queen of Hearts Attend a dance class
Even for those that are rhythmically challenged, this is a great way to connect with your life dance partner and have some laughs.

King of Hearts Learn a language
It is a challenge and will take more than a week to get this one done. Get started on something you have always wanted to do (we all do) and think of how it will make you a better person.

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Ace of ClubsTry a new recipe
We all get set in our ways and make the same 5-10 meals with very little change. Having broccoli instead of green beans is not a different meal. Grab a cookbook, ask a friend or even Google it. Find something new to make and surprise yourself.

2 of ClubsTake a 3 day weekend with someone important
One of the most valuable things you can give to someone is time. It is one of the things that we are limited on having and we never know when we have run out. Take a break and take a spouse, a family member or a friend and get out-of-town together.

3 of ClubsTake a nap
Who doesn’t want one of these? We all go go go and feel that a nap is something we don’t have the time for. Take the time and take a nap.

4 of ClubsBuild something
This could be something small like a(an) ______ all the way up to a new deck on the back of your home. Enjoy the feeling of creation and being able to appreciate your work for years to come.

5 of ClubsNo desserts
For some this is simple and for others a challenge. Go a week and have no desserts. That means no cookies at the office and no samples at the store. This might not be the best item to attempt to check off the list during the holiday season.

6 of ClubsReach 10,000 steps
Looking to improve your health in one of the easiest ways, walk 10,000 steps in a day. Pace back and forth while you are on the phone. Stretch your legs when you have a moment. Take a walk around the block. Reach 10,000 steps on a regular basis and your body will thank you.

7 of ClubsClean your garage
The first thing most people see when they get home is the garage. If you are not seeing yours, it is a good bet that it is too full and too much of a mess for you to use it. Start with one box at a time and after a box a day you will start to see changes in your garage and reclaim an area of your home.

8 of ClubsJournal
Clear your mind at the end of the day. Capture your thoughts, feelings and experiences in a private place for you or in a place that you can one day pass to someone else to know what it was that you were going through. Journaling will capture it all and help you sleep better.

9 of ClubsNo TV
Turn off the tube! Pull out a book (see items #__ and #___) play a board game, go for a walk. Whatever you do if you turn off the television you will quickly reclaim many hours of your week

10 of ClubsBe a kid again
Jump on a skate board. Go play in an arcade. Do something that reminds you of when you were a kid and having happy times. We all have our inner child waiting to come out and play.

Jack of ClubsSave an animal
Want to take a big leap on this one, go adopt an animal. You will wonder if you saved it or if it saved you. If you are not ready to take on the additional responsibility, take some time and volunteer at the local animal shelter. You will feel wonderful at the end of the day.

Queen of ClubsPlant a tree
A tree might be a little big for your space. If you can’t plant a tree, bring something green to your home and pot some flowers. Help nature grow and watch how it makes you feel better

King of ClubsNew hairstyle
Be daring. Got long hair, go cut it short. If you have always have had short hair, grow it out. Losing your hair (we know of what we speak) just take the plunge and shave it off.

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Ace of DiamondsGet extreme
Jump from a plane (with a parachute please) Go Scuba diving. Compete in a marathon. Do something this next year that reminds you the thrill that life can share when you push yourself to something extreme.

2 of DiamondsInterview a role model
Want to grow in many ways this year? Take a moment and interview a role model. Find someone doing something that you want to do. Someone that will be happy to share with you what they know. Remember that you are also a role model to others and be ready to continue to share that information

3 of DiamondsTake a hike
Get outside and breathe in some fresh air while exploring nature and getting some exercise. Sounds like a perfect way to clear your head for a day

4 of DiamondsPerform a random act of kindness
Hopefully you do this often. Hold a door open, help someone with full hands from a store, and shovel a driveway of a neighbor. Whatever it is you do, be intentional about finding someone to help

5 of DiamondsShop local
Support your local stores. Big box stores might have larger selections and it is our local stores that add culture to our towns. Get your coffee someplace local. Buy your next book from a local bookstore. Shop local and help your town.

6 of DiamondsAttend a live sporting event
Support your local team in any professional sport or even at the college level. Get out there, unwind and take in competition at its finest.

7 of DiamondsTake the stairs and skip all elevators/escalators
Use an extra moment and climb the stairs and get your blood pumping that little bit extra. You never know, you might start a trend.

8 of DiamondsDiscover a new band
Get out of your comfort zone of listening to the same groups again and again. Ask friends for suggestions, check out what Pandora shows as similar or dive into iTunes and find something different and push your mind.

9 of DiamondsSubscribe to a magazine for someone
Magazines are great learning tools. They bring information right to your mailbox monthly. Find a magazine you think someone would enjoy and send a subscription to them. They will think of you monthly.

10 of DiamondsTake a vacation
You’ve earned it. OK, maybe you haven’t and you should still take one. Just before a vacation we get focused and busy at work and then on a vacation we can unplug, unwind and create a memory that we otherwise would have missed

Jack of DiamondsLeave a huge tip
Ever work in the service industry? If you have you know that you can change someone’s day with an unexpectedly large tip. Never worked in the service industry, you should and then you would understand.

Queen of DiamondsMake friends with someone new
Meet your children’s friend’s parents. Meet someone you see at the coffee shop each morning. Make a new friend and see what doors open for both of you.

King of DiamondsSay thank you
You do this all the time as second nature (we hope) Be intentional about saying thank you to someone (or a group of some ones) that have impacted your life. Gratitude goes a long way

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Ace of SpadesSing karaoke
You might not be able to sing. You might have stage fright. Don’t worry most of the people who are there can’t sing either. Relax and enjoy a night of getting uncomfortable.

2 of SpadesSupport the arts
Every town has a local theatre. Take in a dance performance or a play that is going on. Encourage those that invest their time and talents and experience something magical

3 of SpadesCreate a work of art
Pull out those paints. Get some pencils and start sketching. You don’t have to make something to frame, just create and find amazing new answers to questions you have been stuck on.

4 of SpadesSpend a day with a child
Take your child for a day of just the two of you. Don’t have a child, borrow a niece or nephew. Children need role models and relationships. Take a day and work on developing yours.

5 of SpadesDownload a new app
Who knows what app. Open up the app store on your phone and download the top suggested or top free or go looking for an app that can help solve a problem you have. Technology is everywhere so embrace it.

6 of SpadesTake a friend out to dinner
Everyone eats. Take a friend and spend a meal together. Catch up, talk about life, and eat great food. You will be happy you did.

7 of SpadesGo on a road trip
Everywhere in the country has someplace close enough to make for a fun road trip. Jump in the car and off you go to create a memory and experience an adventure.

8 of SpadesLearn more about something you are interested in
With the growth of Google there is nothing out of reach anymore. Want to know more about Greek Mythology, Google it. Want to learn more about bridges, Google it. There is something you have wanted to know so take a moment and Google it.

9 of SpadesRepaint a room
Nothing will change a day more than a new color. Paint that bathroom, bedroom or office that you have been thinking about doing. It will give you a new lease on creativity.

10 of SpadesGive a gift to someone for no reason
We all feel better when we can make others feel better (believe it or not) Next time you see something that you know someone you know would enjoy, send it to them!

Jack of SpadesDrink water
Looking to improve your health and eat better, the first place to start is drinking those 8 cups of water a day. Get a bottle that holds 64oz and fill it. Drink it all before the day ends.

Queen of SpadesVisit an art gallery
Savor a moment surrounded by beautiful works of art and explore an art gallery. New thoughts will fill your mind and new solutions found

King of SpadesGo on a picnic
Nature is there for you to embrace and too often we enjoy nature out the window of our car or office. Grab your meal and grab a seat on the grass and enjoy a little time with Mother Nature. When was the last time you visited her?

Just draw one card from your deck a week and it will make for a wonderful year of growth and change. At the end of that year you will never be the same!

This challenge can be started at any time and does not have to start with a new year. Start today and good luck.

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8 Key Lessons from Dad

We have all learned valuable lessons from our parents. Today we have a look at some of the lessons my dad had shared with me through my life.  Some of these lessons were positive and some were things to learn from. Either way, these lessons came from love and the school of hard knocks

LIFE ISN’T FAIR. This is a lesson that dad shared at least once a month. The good thing to know is that there are times that life is not fair and it is in your favor! If you want to know more about this check out this blog focused on this topic Life isn’t fair.

TREAT A WOMAN LIKE YOU WOULD WANT YOUR MOTHER TREATED. If you treat every woman the way that you would want people to treat your mother, the world will be a better place. This lesson comes down to how to be a gentleman and was a very important lesson to learn.

JUST PUT SOME DIRT ON IT. This is a lesson that dad shared anytime someone was hurt. Be tough and it won’t hurt as much if you just take a moment and rub some dirt on it. This lesson did change when speaking to a young girl. Instead of dirt it was put kisses all over it and the pain was gone. The lesson to take from this is think of something else and the pain will be gone.

YOU’RE NOT SICK, IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. This is a lesson that probably wasn’t a great one to learn, as there are times your body is attempting to tell you something that you don’t listen to. This was a very valuable lesson in the power of mindset and that you can do anything you put your mind to, even overcome sickness.

READ READ AND THEN READ SOME MORE. Dad always had a book in his hand. It might have been the latest spy thriller or the newest business book to help push your thinking to the next level. Whichever it was he was reading it was a powerful lesson to always be expanding your thinking.

SPEND MONEY. Enjoy what you have. Have experiences. Create memories. All of that came with spending money and dad was good at that! This lesson might have been better learned if there was some balance to it and dad also taught how to save. Oh well, at least there are some great memories!

THE POINT OF CHILDREN ARE GRANDCHILDREN. This was a lesson that dad shared later in life. Maybe dad didn’t learn this one until later in life and therefore also taught the lesson of always be learning! There was nothing as important to dad as his grandchildren. Remember that as you wonder what happened to your children as they become know it all teenagers and adults. One day they will provide you with grandchildren and they will have to suffer their children growing up!

TAKE A LOT OF PHOTOS. Most memories of dad include a camera around his neck (cameras weren’t always built into phones) and snapping photos. Memories will be captured for ever with a simple click of a camera. Take those photos, look at those photos and remember the good times.

Thanks dad for all of these lessons. They will last forever and be passed on. You will never be forgotten. You were a great dad always filled with support even when it wasn’t clear.

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Halloween or your life

Halloween is the perfect way to look at your life and the perfect time to make some changes because you don’t have to wait for New Year’s Eve for that.

Each year we dress up in crazy costumes (some of you crazier than others) and shed our inhibitions and get out there. Maybe it is the safety of the costume or maybe it is just the fact that for a night we don’t listen to that little voice in our heads.

Out we go, meeting our neighbors finally and saying hello to complete strangers. We go with one script in mind…Trick or Treat.

Of course we know that we are getting a treat. When was the last time you got a trick performed for you?

You go door to door (or store to store in the shopping mall now) and repeat the same script again and again and again.

When the night is over, you have a bag filled with candy. How much candy is up to you as it depends on how focused you were or how slow you went through the night.

Now the important part…you sort through the candy. Some of it is great and some of it is not so great. Remember that even not so great candy, is still candy! The only thing that you throw away are the toothbrushes and the candy that was melted.

This should be your life! Don’t believe us? Let’s take a look…

  • You dress up in crazy costumes – you dress up for work (maybe not as crazy, then again for some of you maybe crazier)
  • You should get out there to meet your neighbors and perfect strangers as no matter what business you are in you are always looking for new clients.
  • You should know your scripts as well as you know Trick or Treat! What will you say about yourself, about your product or about what you do all day long
  • You know what to say that your candy bag gets filled. In this case it is with business contacts, phone numbers or new people to add to your networking
  • You sort the candy bag. Some of those people are great people to know and some are not so great. Remember even a not so great contact in still a new contact!

Celebrate Halloween each and every day in your life and you will find your candy bag full!

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Chadalyst  Go trick or treat and don’t come back until you have enough candy for the day (we mean, go meet people and don’t stop until you have met enough people or at least the right person for your business!)

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NO is a Four Letter Word

No No No No No No No No No No. How do you feel now? Are you bleeding from anywhere? Is anything broken? Should we get you to a doctor right away?

No cannot hurt you. It is just a simple word that most of us are trained to say since a young age. Think back, and no is the word you probably heard the most often in your life.

No don’t touch that
No don’t open that
No don’t eat that!

Many of the sentences that our parents and teachers and even friends used started with the word no.

Think about anytime recently that someone asked you something or challenged you on something. Was the first word out of your mouth a no?

It is time to stop looking at no as a negative word and think of it as the four letter word it should be – good

If you never heard the word no you would never challenge yourself to learn more and to grow. Everything would be a yes and life would be simple and you would be comfortable with whatever you had and stop there. A no pushes you and that is good!

If you never heard the word no everyone would be succeeding the same. A no stops some people and allows others to find the next step needed. As we know you are a success already, you want to continue to stand out from others right? When you have heard a no you have used that to find the next yes and that is good and what helps set you apart.

If you have ever heard the word no then you have had to made a decision in your life. A decision to grow or a decision to accept the no and go on a different path. Whichever you have chosen it is good!

A no is a good thing to hear. Make it a goal to get at least 10 no’s in a day. If you can get those 10 no’s the yes that you earn will be worth it!

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You are someone’s role model

You are a role model.

This isn’t a job position that you apply for.

There is no application that you had to have filled out.

Someone out there is watching you and learning from you with everything that you are doing.

You might not even know who it is that is paying attention to you. You might not have any idea when they are watching you.

You are always on duty and there is no end to this shift.

  • You might be a mentor to a child in your home watching what you choose as priorities.
  • You might be a mentor to someone at work watching to see what level of achievement you are setting
  • You might be a mentor to a someone who you don’t really know and they watch everything you do online

It could be someone in your neighborhood, someone at a store you stop at frequently or even a pet in your household that learns from your mood and temper. You might never know who it is and it might be more than one person.

How can you set a good example and be the role model you want to be?

  • Do a good deed by holding a door open for someone and maybe it sends a message to someone who sees it happen as well as the person you assisted.
  • Pay for the car behind you at the drive through window and you could impact the server at the window and the people in the car behind you.
  • Give a moment to help feed the homeless and you are setting an example for everyone in your life as well as being a mentor to everyone there to eat.

The question to ask yourself with every action you choose is, what sort of example are you setting for others?

Chadalyst – Stop and take a moment to think of someone who you know you are a mentor to. What message are you sending them? Is it the message you want them to remember?

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6 pack of learning from one of the most inspiring sources…a dog

We all look to the so-called experts on self-improvement, leadership and mindset for help. If we just took a moment to stop and look at what is around us we would be amazed at what we could learn.

That is just what we did and as we sat to put this blog together. We found the greatest inspiration we could imagine…a dog! With just watching Whistler (our dog) for a short time we were able to take away this refreshing 6 pack of lessons.

1)Give love and get love
Everyone wants someone to spend their lives with. Even those of you reading this saying not me, when the right person comes into your life you will change that thought. This goes for a dog as well. They are just looking for the right family to become a part of and once they find it they will give unconditional love to that family forever. Excitement when you walk in the door. Kisses (or a lot of licking) when you just sitting near them. Putting their head in your lap and knowing that they are safe with you. What do you do when this happens? You return the love and start petting them, which is all they wanted, your love in return.
The lesson to remember – if you want to find love and continue to experience love, make sure it starts with you as you give love first

2)Bury your treasures
Many of us lose what we have because we just leave it where we can see it. We don’t mean that someone steals it from you, although that can happen, we mean that most of us don’t save for that rainy day in our life. Give a dog a bone and they are off chewing and enjoying that bone. When they are done with it they don’t just leave it lying around, they find a great place to bury that bone so nobody else can take it from them. When the day comes that they want that bone, it is hidden and waiting for them.
The lesson to remember – save! Put some of that extra money aside for a time when you need it or for a goal that you are working towards

3)Loyalty rewards
We shop at certain stores all the time and they give us points to keep coming back. They reward us for our loyalty. Is there anyone as loyal as a good dog? Your dog is always there for you at a moments notice and will defend you from strangers. A dog shows such loyalty that most people consider their dog family. At the same time many of us have family members ready to take advantage of us at a moments notice. Maybe a dog is even better than just being a family member.
The lesson to remember – be loyal. To a brand, to a store, and most importantly to friends, family and others that you have let into your life as it will all come back as a reward when you least expect it.

4) Don’t worry be happy
A dog isn’t worried about where their next meal is coming from or when their next bath might happen. They aren’t thinking about possibly having a meeting with the other dog in the neighborhood. They are living in the moment, taking a nap, enjoy the sun or whatever they are doing. As a person we have to deal with life and that we remember lesson #2  from our dog. This is not a reason to focus on the stress and we all need to the pleasure of the moment we are in.
The lesson to remember – enjoy the moment and don’t stress over things you will not be able to control

5)Energy Explosion
A quiet moment is interrupted by the excitement of a dog that has decided that now is the best time to run in circles around the backyard. You might think that Whistler is training to be a horse at the barrel races or that she can go back in time if she just runs fast enough. The moment passes and with no energy left in her tank she finds a quiet place to lay down and take a short nap.
The lesson to remember – don’t leave anything in your tank! Use that energy, give it your all, and then after, find your favorite way to recharge before you go for it all over again!

6)Training Pleasures
There are two types of dogs, the type that are not trained well and drive everyone crazy and the ones that are trained and learn to behave and are loved for it. A dog wants to please and that means understanding what you are asking it to do. Train your dog. Let them learn to not jump on people, not bark all night long and to sit, fetch and any other trick. As the dog does what you ask they will be happier for it and so will you. Often they will even end up with an extra pat on the head or a treat and enjoy the reward of having been trained.
The lesson to remember – it doesn’t matter if you are a teacher, a doctor, a salesperson, a stay at home parent or anything else, training matters. Get extra training in your area of specialty and you will be better at what you do and you will be rewarded for it.

Chadalyst – Pick the lesson that you should focus on the most and make a plan for what you are going to do over the next week to work on that lesson.

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