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Look in the mirror!

Isn’t it interesting how your reticular activating system can really kick in on certain things.

  • Maybe you are looking at buying a car, and you start to see the type of car you are thinking about purchasing everywhere.
  • Maybe you are about to get married and all of a sudden it seems like everyone around you is getting married.
  • Maybe you hear an amazing piece of advice and it keeps showing up everywhere you look.

I found myself in just that situation recently and I wanted to share this advice that kept popping up in my world with each of you.

LOOK IN THE MIRROR!mirror

There are many reasons to look in the mirror and the first reason came from my mother. If your home life was anything like mine, each morning you were reminded to look in the mirror before you left the house. Of course in my home the reminding sounded a little more like, “did you even look at yourself in the mirror?”

Yes, it matters how we present ourselves.

mirror competitionThe second reason to look into a mirror is to beat the best competitor you will ever face (in anything) and that is yourself! Have you noticed how gyms have mirrors everywhere? It is not to make the location look bigger. It is to have you watching your competition, yourself. Personal trainers will tell you again and again that the only competitor that can truly beat you is staring back at you in that mirror!
If you want to be your best, beat the person staring back at you.

mirror self reflectionThe third reason I share with you today is one that Gary Keller reminded many recently and that is “if you want to find someone to blame, just look in the mirror.” This is usually the last place we want to look even though it should be the first.
Before you blame others, figure out where something went wrong and what you can learn from the experience.

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Remember these 3 tips each time you pass a mirror…

1) Dress to impress!

2) Your biggest competition is right in front of you.

3) If you want to blame someone, they are looking right back at you.

 

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Chadalyst – Find a small mirror to place on your desk, hang on the wall near your office phone, or put near the door you use the most when you leave your home. Remember the 3 reasons for a mirror each time you look back at yourself.

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What is a leader?

There I was sitting in a room with people with the title of leader. These leaders are getting ready to work with others that also have a title of leader. This made me ask the question, what makes a leader?

  • Is a leader someone who helps others figure out what to do or figures out what to do and let others witness it?
    Is a leader someone who goes first or goes last?
    Is a leader someone who tells others things or listens to others about things?

The answer to these questions is a simple one…yes.

A leader helps others figure the path and leads by example.
A leader sometimes pulls in the right direction and leads the way and other times pushes in the right direction and follows others.
A leader has answers and is always finding new answers.

Still confused? Here it is summed up in 3 simple points of what a leader does.vision

  1. Set a vision
  2. Clearly communicate that vision consistently
  3. Recruit a team to that vision

1. Set a vision – a leader should have an idea of where they currently are and where they want to go.

2. Communicate that vision – a leader should be able to share the destination with others so they want to go there as well.

3. Recruit a team – through communication a leader should be able to find others that see the same vision, hear the same vision and want to join on the journey to the final vision.

Some visions need a large team to achieve. Then there are some visions the only person you need to recruit is the one looking at you in the mirror!

You might not be a leader in title. That shouldn’t stop you from leading. In the different areas of life, we can all be leaders.

  • Maybe you are a leader in the business world.
  • Maybe you are a leader in your health choices.
  • Maybe you are a leader in the way you parent or the type of spouse you are.

The hardest person to lead is yourself so remember that YOU are a Leader and start there!

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Chadalyst – The best way to lead others is to lead yourself. Find one thing that you can lead yourself to success at, and do it! Then do it again! Soon enough people will be coming to you for the lessons you have learned and the leadership you display!

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Welcome to the Hall of Fame

I have been blessed to be able to visit the College Football Hall of Fame, the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, the Pro Football Hall of Fame, the Hockey Hall of Fame and of course in my opinion the hall of all halls…the Baseball Hall of Fame.

One thing is very clear when you enter a Hall of Fame, only the best of the best get to find a space to call their own. As of this year the Pro Football hall of fame only has 295 members and with over a century of baseball and thousands of players only 310 players, coaches and umpires have been elected.

The best of the best all had a few things in common.

1)Dedication
Top athletes don’t just wake up one day and find that they have been blessed with their arm being turned into a thunderbolt. They have dedication to what it is they are looking to master. They work at it again and again. On days where they really want to stay in bed and hide under the sheets, they get up and do it anyway!
Jerry Rice, one of the greatest wide receivers ever (that is a discussion for another time) even in practice always finished each play with a run into the end zone. In the off-season, he worked out 6 days a week in a famous workout that was just called “The Hill” and other athletes would attempt his workout and fail.
Jerry Rice had dedication. Athletes that make the Hall of Fame have dedication. Do you have dedication?

2)Determination
Hall of Famers don’t give up, they are determined to achieve their goal and will do what they have to so they can.
There were days that Cal Ripken Jr was hurt and had slight injuries and his determination found him in each game for 2,632 consecutive games (that is 16 seasons without missing a game)
How important are your goals to you and do you have the determination to achieve them?

3)Results

Those athletes that get honored in the Hall of Fame had results from what they did. They didn’t just show up and go through the motions and believe they should be honored. They worked for it and they produced! More importantly they produced when it mattered most.
Reggie Jackson was nicknamed “Mr October” for the way he produced in the clutch time of the baseball season. Joe Montana was knows as “Joe Cool” and lead 31 fourth-quarter comebacks and brought results when they were needed.
Do you create positive results from your activities and do you deliver in the clutch?

The different Hall of Fame locations are places to visit, to imagine what could be and to be reminded of what it takes to earn a space to call your own.

There might not be a Hall of Fame in your industry and that shouldn’t stop you from being remembered as one of the best and earning a spot forever in the hearts of others.

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Chadalyst – Begin earning your space in the Hall of Fame today and figure out why you are doing what you are doing and why it truly matters. Once you know that the dedication and determination will follow.

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Stupid or Smart…You Choose

“It takes no more hours in a day to be smart than it does to be stupid!” – Gary Keller

 

This sounds like something my dad would have said to me, and that is just the way that Gary speaks to anyone smart enough to listen!

 

While Gary was hitting us with this powerful statement at Keller William’s Mega Camp, what does this really mean?

 

It means that YOU get the choice of how you spend each moment of your life. Even when it feels like you don’t have that choice, you still have it! You can choose the positive outlook in a negative situation just as easily as you can choose to have a negative outlook in a positive situation. *Editorial note – Why would you do the latter?

 

It is up to you to fill your calendar with activities that help you continue to grow smarter instead of leading you down the path of stupid.

 

Are you filling your calendar with powerful growth opportunities such as:
  • Masterminding and Networking with SMART people
  • Goal setting for a BIGGER life
  • Reading for personal GROWTH
  • Focusing on growing your ONE thing to becoming a leader in your industry
Or are you choosing to fill your calendar with lesser choices such as:
  • Watching your favorite soap opera
  • Eating at unhealthy restaurants
  • Sitting around with no purpose or plan and just watching grass grow (another saying my dad always enjoyed to use)
Now, we are not saying that some of those things don’t bring value to your life. Sometimes we all need to unplug and there is nothing better than getting lost in a movie or a show. The real question is how much time do you need for unplugging and how much time are you taking for unplugging?

 

Are you finding your calendar filled by others and letting them choose what to put on there? Then you can only hope you are surrounded by people filling your calendar with smart time.

 

The only thing worse that having stupid time on your calendar is not even filling in a calendar to follow. If you don’t fill in a calendar, how will you know what you NEED to do instead of what you think you should do? When presented with that choice we always choose the easy way out.

 

White SpaceYOU get to choose if your activities and situations are making you smarter or not. Remember that your calendar is your true boss. Make sure you get your goals to show up by the activities on your calendar and then each day remember to ask your calendar what you should be doing. Then, do THAT!

 

Time block well as you get to choose if those minutes, hours and days are going to be helping you become “more stupid” or smarter.

 

If you are ready to learn more about time blocking with smart time contact me to learn how to bring the official The ONE Thing Workshop to youONEThing Certified

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Chadalyst – Get out a calendar, any calendar from a day planner to Google, and start filling it in. Remember to add smart time to that calendar today by putting exercise, reading and networking, with the right people. Don’t leave white space!

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Follow in the Footsteps of Heroes

As the year comes to an end and next year looms over the horizon, this is a chance for many people to reinvent themselves and improve themselves moving forward. There is always something we wish we could do better and now is the time to figure it out.

Pull out a piece of paper and take a moment to write down the names of your heroes. This list could be filled with:

  • parents or other family members
  • teachers you have had
  • athletes
  • historical figures
  • spiritual leaders
  • others in your chosen professional field

My list is a short and simple one that includes Jackie Robinson as my childhood hero, John C Maxwell as one in my chosen field and for spiritual leadership and the hero I get to watch each day, my wife.

Now that you have your list take a moment and write out all of the attributes that make these people heroes to you.

  • dedication
  • loyal
  • brave
  • filled with integrity

This list should be an easy one and it should be a long one. Heroes are filled with traits that make them become larger than life to us.

Once you have your list put together take a moment and circle the 12 words on the list that stand out the most to you. No more, no less.

Time to rewrite your list. This time, use only the 12 words that you have circled and put them in order from 1-12 with 1 being the one you are most challenged with and 12 being the one you are strongest in.

Each number now matches with a month in the year. The word that you had circled and are most challenged with (#1) is now the focus for your January, #2 is February and so on and so on. This way you will finish the year next year with the attribute you feel you are the strongest in at this time.

How can you focus on growing in that one attribute for the month?

  • Read a book on the topic
  • Watch a series of YouTube videos that help
  • Reach out to your hero if possible, or someone else strong in that attribute and talk about how they got that way over coffee

By taking a month to focus on one heroic attribute you will look more like your heroes by the end of next year. Capes and tights are optional.

Superman

 

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Chadalyst – For an extra challenge, reach out to those you listed as your heroes (where possible) and let them know. Everyone wants to be someone’s hero!

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TOAST them or you’re toast!

There is a limited number of relationships that each of us can maintain at any one time. The most well known research on this topic was done by Robin Dunbar who states, “humans can only comfortably maintain 150 stable relationships.” He goes on to say that this 150 is “the number of people one knows and keeps social contact with.”

What happens when you meet someone or have a relationship with someone and want to make sure that you keep social contact with them? You have to work at it.

Relationships take work!

You must T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, otherwise your relationships are toast!

burnt toastFor those of you that don’t know the expression, “you’re toast” it is a phrase used to indicate that someone is in big trouble. In this case, your relationships!

While you might be able to have in the area of 150 relationships, you should figure your 30-40 key relationships in your life, both personal and professional (yes that means your spouse, your children, your parents, as well as your boss, co-workers and clients)
If you can remember to take the time to toast each relationship it will be that much easier to strengthen your key relationships.

T = Talk to them.

This means that you must pick up the phone and call them or even better get face to face and spend a little time with them. This doesn’t matter if it is family, a co-worker, or a client that you value. Check in and spend a little time catching up.
What to say when you are talking to them?
O = Offer
A = Assistance
Don’t worry about asking them to help you, instead make the focus of your call about how you can offer assistance to them! They will return the favor again and again as you continue to strengthen the relationship
S = Send them something
See an interesting article online? Email it to them and let them know. Read something in a magazine that they might enjoy reading, send it to them. Find a comic in the Sunday paper (we know you flip to the comics first) that makes you laugh, cut it out and mail it to them. Make sure they continue to get things from you.
T = Text them
In today’s society almost everyone texts. It is an easy way for communication. Start the day with a simple text to wish them a great day. Send off a text to share something that happened. Did you see them post something on Facebook that really caught your attention? Don’t just comment on Facebook, take it a step farther and text them as well.  Just don’t text and drive!
If you can’t remember each month to T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, then they will fall apart and your relationships will be toast.
Take a moment, raise a glass, or in this case a phone, and toast your key relationships and watch them strengthen!

Champagene Toast

 

 

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Chadalyst – Go through your database, contact list, social media profiles and figure the 30-40 people who you will be toasting. Start and call the first one today!

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Comeback – Are you ready for yours?

It is the 4th quarter of the year finally!

You work hard all year-long to be ready to pop the champagne and celebrate a successful winning season. The question is have you eliminated yourself before the year even ends or are you ready for the big push?

Have you taken the season and given up, and said, wait for next year, like a Chicago Cubs fan?
Are you someone who takes a set back like Bethany Hamilton did after her surfing career was put on hold due to an act of nature, and finds a way to come back and reach the goals you had set for yourself?
Are you a believer that anything can happen and that like Team USA in the America’s Cup this year you can still pull off a win even if it seems impossible?

Take a look back to the start of the year. What were your resolutions or goals for the year?

  • reach a specific sales plateau
  • lose a certain amount of weight
  • have a target amount in a savings account

Whatever your goal was for this year, it doesn’t matter how far behind you are you can still push forward and comeback to win.

Remember the Buffalo Bills in ’93 as they were able to come back from a 35-3 deficit to the greatest NFL comeback and win 41-38.
What the Boston Red Sox come back from 0-3 in the ALCS of 2004 against the New York Yankees and how that propelled them to their first World Series Championship in 86 years.Finish Strong

You can do the same thing!

If your desire to win is strong enough the opportunity is always there to finish the year on a winning note.

  • How many extra calls do you need to make or extra people do you need to meet for that sales goal?
  • Step up the workout program, or finally step into a gym at least, and cut out that extra snack to fight for the weight goal
  • Check the budget, push hard at work and the savings account will grow before the year ends

The best teams, the best coaches and the best of the best are the ones that make the most of the 4th quarter.

This is your time!

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Chadalyst – Take your goal/resolution from the start of the year, figure where you are now and write out the plan to finish this year strong!

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