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Who are your 5 people?

Author, motivational speaker and entrepreneur Jim Rohn is known for many great sayings such as:

Never wish life were easier, wish that you were better.

You cannot change your destination overnight, but you can change your direction overnight.

Affirmation without discipline is the beginning of delusion.

And then there was this one:

You’re the average of the five people you spend the most time with.

Now for the big question, who are those people?

My dad was either a big fan of Jim Rohn or he understood this lesson at a high level from somewhere in life. Because when I was in grade 10 I spent my time with a specific group of friends. My grades suffered and I almost had the opportunity to repeat some of my classes that year. My dad stepped up and gave me two options. Option one, be grounded for the rest of my high school life and never have a social life. Option two, find new friends!

The friends that I spent time with during grade 10 I am sure are all great people now. At the time they didn’t show the drive that my dad knew was within me and instead of pushing myself, I held back to stay with my friends. Had I remained with this group, who knows who I am today!

Instead of being locked in the house for the next few years, as you can guess I took the second option and I developed other friendships and surrounded myself with a group of guys that had drive, determination and goals in their future. Now one is an author, one an actor, one a lawyer, one a leader in his organization and one a leader in tourism for a major city. All of these friends are like brothers to me and even now, 30 years later we are still just as close.

What did my dad know? He knew that surrounding me with others that were growing, learning and challenging each other would help me to grow, to learn and to take on challenges. At the time I am sure I argued and kicked and screamed about the change. Now all I can say is thank you dad!

Let’s get back to the question that I asked you before sharing part of my story. Who are those 5 people for you?
Write the names of the 5 people (adult children count, otherwise don’t count your young kids still at home) that you spend the most time with.
Then create a column and rate them on a 1-10 scale of, 1) how fun they are 2) their business success 3) their health.
Average up the score for each category, fun, success and health and I bet you find rating of you.

We become the people we spend time with.

Choose your friends wisely!

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Chadalyst – Go one step farther and create a list of the 5 people you want to spend your time with. Then work on developing those relationships so that you can make that list a reality!

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Look in the mirror!

Isn’t it interesting how your reticular activating system can really kick in on certain things.

  • Maybe you are looking at buying a car, and you start to see the type of car you are thinking about purchasing everywhere.
  • Maybe you are about to get married and all of a sudden it seems like everyone around you is getting married.
  • Maybe you hear an amazing piece of advice and it keeps showing up everywhere you look.

I found myself in just that situation recently and I wanted to share this advice that kept popping up in my world with each of you.

LOOK IN THE MIRROR!mirror

There are many reasons to look in the mirror and the first reason came from my mother. If your home life was anything like mine, each morning you were reminded to look in the mirror before you left the house. Of course in my home the reminding sounded a little more like, “did you even look at yourself in the mirror?”

Yes, it matters how we present ourselves.

mirror competitionThe second reason to look into a mirror is to beat the best competitor you will ever face (in anything) and that is yourself! Have you noticed how gyms have mirrors everywhere? It is not to make the location look bigger. It is to have you watching your competition, yourself. Personal trainers will tell you again and again that the only competitor that can truly beat you is staring back at you in that mirror!
If you want to be your best, beat the person staring back at you.

mirror self reflectionThe third reason I share with you today is one that Gary Keller reminded many recently and that is “if you want to find someone to blame, just look in the mirror.” This is usually the last place we want to look even though it should be the first.
Before you blame others, figure out where something went wrong and what you can learn from the experience.

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Remember these 3 tips each time you pass a mirror…

1) Dress to impress!

2) Your biggest competition is right in front of you.

3) If you want to blame someone, they are looking right back at you.

 

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Chadalyst – Find a small mirror to place on your desk, hang on the wall near your office phone, or put near the door you use the most when you leave your home. Remember the 3 reasons for a mirror each time you look back at yourself.

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What is a leader?

There I was sitting in a room with people with the title of leader. These leaders are getting ready to work with others that also have a title of leader. This made me ask the question, what makes a leader?

  • Is a leader someone who helps others figure out what to do or figures out what to do and let others witness it?
    Is a leader someone who goes first or goes last?
    Is a leader someone who tells others things or listens to others about things?

The answer to these questions is a simple one…yes.

A leader helps others figure the path and leads by example.
A leader sometimes pulls in the right direction and leads the way and other times pushes in the right direction and follows others.
A leader has answers and is always finding new answers.

Still confused? Here it is summed up in 3 simple points of what a leader does.vision

  1. Set a vision
  2. Clearly communicate that vision consistently
  3. Recruit a team to that vision

1. Set a vision – a leader should have an idea of where they currently are and where they want to go.

2. Communicate that vision – a leader should be able to share the destination with others so they want to go there as well.

3. Recruit a team – through communication a leader should be able to find others that see the same vision, hear the same vision and want to join on the journey to the final vision.

Some visions need a large team to achieve. Then there are some visions the only person you need to recruit is the one looking at you in the mirror!

You might not be a leader in title. That shouldn’t stop you from leading. In the different areas of life, we can all be leaders.

  • Maybe you are a leader in the business world.
  • Maybe you are a leader in your health choices.
  • Maybe you are a leader in the way you parent or the type of spouse you are.

The hardest person to lead is yourself so remember that YOU are a Leader and start there!

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Chadalyst – The best way to lead others is to lead yourself. Find one thing that you can lead yourself to success at, and do it! Then do it again! Soon enough people will be coming to you for the lessons you have learned and the leadership you display!

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Welcome to the Hall of Fame

I have been blessed to be able to visit the College Football Hall of Fame, the Rock and Roll Hall of Fame, the Pro Football Hall of Fame, the Hockey Hall of Fame and of course in my opinion the hall of all halls…the Baseball Hall of Fame.

One thing is very clear when you enter a Hall of Fame, only the best of the best get to find a space to call their own. As of this year the Pro Football hall of fame only has 295 members and with over a century of baseball and thousands of players only 310 players, coaches and umpires have been elected.

The best of the best all had a few things in common.

1)Dedication
Top athletes don’t just wake up one day and find that they have been blessed with their arm being turned into a thunderbolt. They have dedication to what it is they are looking to master. They work at it again and again. On days where they really want to stay in bed and hide under the sheets, they get up and do it anyway!
Jerry Rice, one of the greatest wide receivers ever (that is a discussion for another time) even in practice always finished each play with a run into the end zone. In the off-season, he worked out 6 days a week in a famous workout that was just called “The Hill” and other athletes would attempt his workout and fail.
Jerry Rice had dedication. Athletes that make the Hall of Fame have dedication. Do you have dedication?

2)Determination
Hall of Famers don’t give up, they are determined to achieve their goal and will do what they have to so they can.
There were days that Cal Ripken Jr was hurt and had slight injuries and his determination found him in each game for 2,632 consecutive games (that is 16 seasons without missing a game)
How important are your goals to you and do you have the determination to achieve them?

3)Results

Those athletes that get honored in the Hall of Fame had results from what they did. They didn’t just show up and go through the motions and believe they should be honored. They worked for it and they produced! More importantly they produced when it mattered most.
Reggie Jackson was nicknamed “Mr October” for the way he produced in the clutch time of the baseball season. Joe Montana was knows as “Joe Cool” and lead 31 fourth-quarter comebacks and brought results when they were needed.
Do you create positive results from your activities and do you deliver in the clutch?

The different Hall of Fame locations are places to visit, to imagine what could be and to be reminded of what it takes to earn a space to call your own.

There might not be a Hall of Fame in your industry and that shouldn’t stop you from being remembered as one of the best and earning a spot forever in the hearts of others.

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Chadalyst – Begin earning your space in the Hall of Fame today and figure out why you are doing what you are doing and why it truly matters. Once you know that the dedication and determination will follow.

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Stupid or Smart…You Choose

“It takes no more hours in a day to be smart than it does to be stupid!” – Gary Keller

 

This sounds like something my dad would have said to me, and that is just the way that Gary speaks to anyone smart enough to listen!

 

While Gary was hitting us with this powerful statement at Keller William’s Mega Camp, what does this really mean?

 

It means that YOU get the choice of how you spend each moment of your life. Even when it feels like you don’t have that choice, you still have it! You can choose the positive outlook in a negative situation just as easily as you can choose to have a negative outlook in a positive situation. *Editorial note – Why would you do the latter?

 

It is up to you to fill your calendar with activities that help you continue to grow smarter instead of leading you down the path of stupid.

 

Are you filling your calendar with powerful growth opportunities such as:
  • Masterminding and Networking with SMART people
  • Goal setting for a BIGGER life
  • Reading for personal GROWTH
  • Focusing on growing your ONE thing to becoming a leader in your industry
Or are you choosing to fill your calendar with lesser choices such as:
  • Watching your favorite soap opera
  • Eating at unhealthy restaurants
  • Sitting around with no purpose or plan and just watching grass grow (another saying my dad always enjoyed to use)
Now, we are not saying that some of those things don’t bring value to your life. Sometimes we all need to unplug and there is nothing better than getting lost in a movie or a show. The real question is how much time do you need for unplugging and how much time are you taking for unplugging?

 

Are you finding your calendar filled by others and letting them choose what to put on there? Then you can only hope you are surrounded by people filling your calendar with smart time.

 

The only thing worse that having stupid time on your calendar is not even filling in a calendar to follow. If you don’t fill in a calendar, how will you know what you NEED to do instead of what you think you should do? When presented with that choice we always choose the easy way out.

 

White SpaceYOU get to choose if your activities and situations are making you smarter or not. Remember that your calendar is your true boss. Make sure you get your goals to show up by the activities on your calendar and then each day remember to ask your calendar what you should be doing. Then, do THAT!

 

Time block well as you get to choose if those minutes, hours and days are going to be helping you become “more stupid” or smarter.

 

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Follow in the Footsteps of Heroes

As the year comes to an end and next year looms over the horizon, this is a chance for many people to reinvent themselves and improve themselves moving forward. There is always something we wish we could do better and now is the time to figure it out.

Pull out a piece of paper and take a moment to write down the names of your heroes. This list could be filled with:

  • parents or other family members
  • teachers you have had
  • athletes
  • historical figures
  • spiritual leaders
  • others in your chosen professional field

My list is a short and simple one that includes Jackie Robinson as my childhood hero, John C Maxwell as one in my chosen field and for spiritual leadership and the hero I get to watch each day, my wife.

Now that you have your list take a moment and write out all of the attributes that make these people heroes to you.

  • dedication
  • loyal
  • brave
  • filled with integrity

This list should be an easy one and it should be a long one. Heroes are filled with traits that make them become larger than life to us.

Once you have your list put together take a moment and circle the 12 words on the list that stand out the most to you. No more, no less.

Time to rewrite your list. This time, use only the 12 words that you have circled and put them in order from 1-12 with 1 being the one you are most challenged with and 12 being the one you are strongest in.

Each number now matches with a month in the year. The word that you had circled and are most challenged with (#1) is now the focus for your January, #2 is February and so on and so on. This way you will finish the year next year with the attribute you feel you are the strongest in at this time.

How can you focus on growing in that one attribute for the month?

  • Read a book on the topic
  • Watch a series of YouTube videos that help
  • Reach out to your hero if possible, or someone else strong in that attribute and talk about how they got that way over coffee

By taking a month to focus on one heroic attribute you will look more like your heroes by the end of next year. Capes and tights are optional.

Superman

 

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Chadalyst – For an extra challenge, reach out to those you listed as your heroes (where possible) and let them know. Everyone wants to be someone’s hero!

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TOAST them or you’re toast!

There is a limited number of relationships that each of us can maintain at any one time. The most well known research on this topic was done by Robin Dunbar who states, “humans can only comfortably maintain 150 stable relationships.” He goes on to say that this 150 is “the number of people one knows and keeps social contact with.”

What happens when you meet someone or have a relationship with someone and want to make sure that you keep social contact with them? You have to work at it.

Relationships take work!

You must T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, otherwise your relationships are toast!

burnt toastFor those of you that don’t know the expression, “you’re toast” it is a phrase used to indicate that someone is in big trouble. In this case, your relationships!

While you might be able to have in the area of 150 relationships, you should figure your 30-40 key relationships in your life, both personal and professional (yes that means your spouse, your children, your parents, as well as your boss, co-workers and clients)
If you can remember to take the time to toast each relationship it will be that much easier to strengthen your key relationships.

T = Talk to them.

This means that you must pick up the phone and call them or even better get face to face and spend a little time with them. This doesn’t matter if it is family, a co-worker, or a client that you value. Check in and spend a little time catching up.
What to say when you are talking to them?
O = Offer
A = Assistance
Don’t worry about asking them to help you, instead make the focus of your call about how you can offer assistance to them! They will return the favor again and again as you continue to strengthen the relationship
S = Send them something
See an interesting article online? Email it to them and let them know. Read something in a magazine that they might enjoy reading, send it to them. Find a comic in the Sunday paper (we know you flip to the comics first) that makes you laugh, cut it out and mail it to them. Make sure they continue to get things from you.
T = Text them
In today’s society almost everyone texts. It is an easy way for communication. Start the day with a simple text to wish them a great day. Send off a text to share something that happened. Did you see them post something on Facebook that really caught your attention? Don’t just comment on Facebook, take it a step farther and text them as well.  Just don’t text and drive!
If you can’t remember each month to T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, then they will fall apart and your relationships will be toast.
Take a moment, raise a glass, or in this case a phone, and toast your key relationships and watch them strengthen!

Champagene Toast

 

 

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Chadalyst – Go through your database, contact list, social media profiles and figure the 30-40 people who you will be toasting. Start and call the first one today!

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Comeback – Are you ready for yours?

It is the 4th quarter of the year finally!

You work hard all year-long to be ready to pop the champagne and celebrate a successful winning season. The question is have you eliminated yourself before the year even ends or are you ready for the big push?

Have you taken the season and given up, and said, wait for next year, like a Chicago Cubs fan?
Are you someone who takes a set back like Bethany Hamilton did after her surfing career was put on hold due to an act of nature, and finds a way to come back and reach the goals you had set for yourself?
Are you a believer that anything can happen and that like Team USA in the America’s Cup this year you can still pull off a win even if it seems impossible?

Take a look back to the start of the year. What were your resolutions or goals for the year?

  • reach a specific sales plateau
  • lose a certain amount of weight
  • have a target amount in a savings account

Whatever your goal was for this year, it doesn’t matter how far behind you are you can still push forward and comeback to win.

Remember the Buffalo Bills in ’93 as they were able to come back from a 35-3 deficit to the greatest NFL comeback and win 41-38.
What the Boston Red Sox come back from 0-3 in the ALCS of 2004 against the New York Yankees and how that propelled them to their first World Series Championship in 86 years.Finish Strong

You can do the same thing!

If your desire to win is strong enough the opportunity is always there to finish the year on a winning note.

  • How many extra calls do you need to make or extra people do you need to meet for that sales goal?
  • Step up the workout program, or finally step into a gym at least, and cut out that extra snack to fight for the weight goal
  • Check the budget, push hard at work and the savings account will grow before the year ends

The best teams, the best coaches and the best of the best are the ones that make the most of the 4th quarter.

This is your time!

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Play With a Full Deck

New Year’s resolutions…forget about them!
Instead we are here to help make this next year aces! There are 52 weeks in the year and 52 cards in a playing deck. Our goal is to make sure we are all playing with a full deck.

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Often we start the year thinking about how to improve our business or how to improve our relationships or how to improve other external things. Our list gets long and overwhelming and we don’t accomplish what we set out to achieve. All of these things can be improved if we all start from the inside out.

Our goal has and always will be to help our readers grow. Thank you for being one of those readers and subscribers to this blog.

Each of our blogs ends with a Chadalyst, a thing that precipitates an event or change from Chad, and this blog is filled with them.

Let’s get to the challengeThere are 52 things on this list. We assigned a playing card to each one, randomly draw a card from a deck once a week and start working on the matching item. Challenge yourself to achieve as many of these as possible in the next year. These are in no specific order. heart

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Ace of Hearts Run a 5K
A short 3 mile run is something you can get up to speed for quickly. This isn’t a race, it is an experience. Donate some money to a good cause, get some great exercise and feel good inside and out.

2 of HeartsClean your closet
There are so many things in your closet that you don’t wear anymore and probably never will again. If you didn’t wear something over the past 12 months, clean it out of the closet and donate it. You will feel good inside and be able to get some new clothes to look good on the outside.

3 of Hearts Take a yoga class
Get your brain centered, get your body doing things you never thought possible. Yoga will help you get in shape and will help you find peace.

4 of Hearts Unplug for a weekend
We have become dependent upon technology. For a weekend, leave your phone behind. Don’t check in, don’t post, and don’t tweet. You deserve a weekend without the beeps and tweets.

5 of Hearts Help at a homeless shelter
There are others in need. Taking some time to donate time and help those less fortunate will help us all appreciate what we have and what we take for granted

6 of Hearts Read a self-help book
We all think we have it together and no matter how great things are, there are always other ways to look at anything. Take a moment and find a book to help us communicate better, help us understand each other better or whatever challenge you face.

7 of Hearts Read a fiction book and escape
Another way to unplug is to pick up a book and escape. There is nothing as powerful as our imagination and reading a fiction book lets us use that imagination. Who knows what new ideas you might find in a crime novel, a journey through time or a trip to another planet.

8 of Hearts Call someone
There is someone who you have wanted to talk to. There is someone who you haven’t spoken to in a while. There is someone you should pick up the phone and call.

9 of Hearts Send a hand written card
Emails and Facebook messages are great ways to stay in touch with people without much effort. Take a moment and show someone that they are important enough for you to hand write them a note or letter. Plus, isn’t it nice to get something in the mail other than a bill?

10 of Hearts Pay for the person behind you at the drive thru
We often go through the drive thru to start our day, on a busy lunch or to bring home dinner at the end of a long day with no time to cook. That means the person behind us is probably in the same boat. Start someone’s day on a high note, help someone else in a rush or make someone’s evening a little bit better.

Jack of Hearts Eat something new
Don’t ask what it is, just taste something that you have never eaten before. Open your mind and heart and in this case, your palate. You may never know what you enjoy once you get over what it is you are eating.

Queen of Hearts Attend a dance class
Even for those that are rhythmically challenged, this is a great way to connect with your life dance partner and have some laughs.

King of Hearts Learn a language
It is a challenge and will take more than a week to get this one done. Get started on something you have always wanted to do (we all do) and think of how it will make you a better person.

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Ace of ClubsTry a new recipe
We all get set in our ways and make the same 5-10 meals with very little change. Having broccoli instead of green beans is not a different meal. Grab a cookbook, ask a friend or even Google it. Find something new to make and surprise yourself.

2 of ClubsTake a 3 day weekend with someone important
One of the most valuable things you can give to someone is time. It is one of the things that we are limited on having and we never know when we have run out. Take a break and take a spouse, a family member or a friend and get out-of-town together.

3 of ClubsTake a nap
Who doesn’t want one of these? We all go go go and feel that a nap is something we don’t have the time for. Take the time and take a nap.

4 of ClubsBuild something
This could be something small like a(an) ______ all the way up to a new deck on the back of your home. Enjoy the feeling of creation and being able to appreciate your work for years to come.

5 of ClubsNo desserts
For some this is simple and for others a challenge. Go a week and have no desserts. That means no cookies at the office and no samples at the store. This might not be the best item to attempt to check off the list during the holiday season.

6 of ClubsReach 10,000 steps
Looking to improve your health in one of the easiest ways, walk 10,000 steps in a day. Pace back and forth while you are on the phone. Stretch your legs when you have a moment. Take a walk around the block. Reach 10,000 steps on a regular basis and your body will thank you.

7 of ClubsClean your garage
The first thing most people see when they get home is the garage. If you are not seeing yours, it is a good bet that it is too full and too much of a mess for you to use it. Start with one box at a time and after a box a day you will start to see changes in your garage and reclaim an area of your home.

8 of ClubsJournal
Clear your mind at the end of the day. Capture your thoughts, feelings and experiences in a private place for you or in a place that you can one day pass to someone else to know what it was that you were going through. Journaling will capture it all and help you sleep better.

9 of ClubsNo TV
Turn off the tube! Pull out a book (see items #__ and #___) play a board game, go for a walk. Whatever you do if you turn off the television you will quickly reclaim many hours of your week

10 of ClubsBe a kid again
Jump on a skate board. Go play in an arcade. Do something that reminds you of when you were a kid and having happy times. We all have our inner child waiting to come out and play.

Jack of ClubsSave an animal
Want to take a big leap on this one, go adopt an animal. You will wonder if you saved it or if it saved you. If you are not ready to take on the additional responsibility, take some time and volunteer at the local animal shelter. You will feel wonderful at the end of the day.

Queen of ClubsPlant a tree
A tree might be a little big for your space. If you can’t plant a tree, bring something green to your home and pot some flowers. Help nature grow and watch how it makes you feel better

King of ClubsNew hairstyle
Be daring. Got long hair, go cut it short. If you have always have had short hair, grow it out. Losing your hair (we know of what we speak) just take the plunge and shave it off.

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Ace of DiamondsGet extreme
Jump from a plane (with a parachute please) Go Scuba diving. Compete in a marathon. Do something this next year that reminds you the thrill that life can share when you push yourself to something extreme.

2 of DiamondsInterview a role model
Want to grow in many ways this year? Take a moment and interview a role model. Find someone doing something that you want to do. Someone that will be happy to share with you what they know. Remember that you are also a role model to others and be ready to continue to share that information

3 of DiamondsTake a hike
Get outside and breathe in some fresh air while exploring nature and getting some exercise. Sounds like a perfect way to clear your head for a day

4 of DiamondsPerform a random act of kindness
Hopefully you do this often. Hold a door open, help someone with full hands from a store, and shovel a driveway of a neighbor. Whatever it is you do, be intentional about finding someone to help

5 of DiamondsShop local
Support your local stores. Big box stores might have larger selections and it is our local stores that add culture to our towns. Get your coffee someplace local. Buy your next book from a local bookstore. Shop local and help your town.

6 of DiamondsAttend a live sporting event
Support your local team in any professional sport or even at the college level. Get out there, unwind and take in competition at its finest.

7 of DiamondsTake the stairs and skip all elevators/escalators
Use an extra moment and climb the stairs and get your blood pumping that little bit extra. You never know, you might start a trend.

8 of DiamondsDiscover a new band
Get out of your comfort zone of listening to the same groups again and again. Ask friends for suggestions, check out what Pandora shows as similar or dive into iTunes and find something different and push your mind.

9 of DiamondsSubscribe to a magazine for someone
Magazines are great learning tools. They bring information right to your mailbox monthly. Find a magazine you think someone would enjoy and send a subscription to them. They will think of you monthly.

10 of DiamondsTake a vacation
You’ve earned it. OK, maybe you haven’t and you should still take one. Just before a vacation we get focused and busy at work and then on a vacation we can unplug, unwind and create a memory that we otherwise would have missed

Jack of DiamondsLeave a huge tip
Ever work in the service industry? If you have you know that you can change someone’s day with an unexpectedly large tip. Never worked in the service industry, you should and then you would understand.

Queen of DiamondsMake friends with someone new
Meet your children’s friend’s parents. Meet someone you see at the coffee shop each morning. Make a new friend and see what doors open for both of you.

King of DiamondsSay thank you
You do this all the time as second nature (we hope) Be intentional about saying thank you to someone (or a group of some ones) that have impacted your life. Gratitude goes a long way

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Ace of SpadesSing karaoke
You might not be able to sing. You might have stage fright. Don’t worry most of the people who are there can’t sing either. Relax and enjoy a night of getting uncomfortable.

2 of SpadesSupport the arts
Every town has a local theatre. Take in a dance performance or a play that is going on. Encourage those that invest their time and talents and experience something magical

3 of SpadesCreate a work of art
Pull out those paints. Get some pencils and start sketching. You don’t have to make something to frame, just create and find amazing new answers to questions you have been stuck on.

4 of SpadesSpend a day with a child
Take your child for a day of just the two of you. Don’t have a child, borrow a niece or nephew. Children need role models and relationships. Take a day and work on developing yours.

5 of SpadesDownload a new app
Who knows what app. Open up the app store on your phone and download the top suggested or top free or go looking for an app that can help solve a problem you have. Technology is everywhere so embrace it.

6 of SpadesTake a friend out to dinner
Everyone eats. Take a friend and spend a meal together. Catch up, talk about life, and eat great food. You will be happy you did.

7 of SpadesGo on a road trip
Everywhere in the country has someplace close enough to make for a fun road trip. Jump in the car and off you go to create a memory and experience an adventure.

8 of SpadesLearn more about something you are interested in
With the growth of Google there is nothing out of reach anymore. Want to know more about Greek Mythology, Google it. Want to learn more about bridges, Google it. There is something you have wanted to know so take a moment and Google it.

9 of SpadesRepaint a room
Nothing will change a day more than a new color. Paint that bathroom, bedroom or office that you have been thinking about doing. It will give you a new lease on creativity.

10 of SpadesGive a gift to someone for no reason
We all feel better when we can make others feel better (believe it or not) Next time you see something that you know someone you know would enjoy, send it to them!

Jack of SpadesDrink water
Looking to improve your health and eat better, the first place to start is drinking those 8 cups of water a day. Get a bottle that holds 64oz and fill it. Drink it all before the day ends.

Queen of SpadesVisit an art gallery
Savor a moment surrounded by beautiful works of art and explore an art gallery. New thoughts will fill your mind and new solutions found

King of SpadesGo on a picnic
Nature is there for you to embrace and too often we enjoy nature out the window of our car or office. Grab your meal and grab a seat on the grass and enjoy a little time with Mother Nature. When was the last time you visited her?

Just draw one card from your deck a week and it will make for a wonderful year of growth and change. At the end of that year you will never be the same!

This challenge can be started at any time and does not have to start with a new year. Start today and good luck.

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8 Key Lessons from Dad

We have all learned valuable lessons from our parents. Today we have a look at some of the lessons my dad had shared with me through my life.  Some of these lessons were positive and some were things to learn from. Either way, these lessons came from love and the school of hard knocks

LIFE ISN’T FAIR. This is a lesson that dad shared at least once a month. The good thing to know is that there are times that life is not fair and it is in your favor! If you want to know more about this check out this blog focused on this topic Life isn’t fair.

TREAT A WOMAN LIKE YOU WOULD WANT YOUR MOTHER TREATED. If you treat every woman the way that you would want people to treat your mother, the world will be a better place. This lesson comes down to how to be a gentleman and was a very important lesson to learn.

JUST PUT SOME DIRT ON IT. This is a lesson that dad shared anytime someone was hurt. Be tough and it won’t hurt as much if you just take a moment and rub some dirt on it. This lesson did change when speaking to a young girl. Instead of dirt it was put kisses all over it and the pain was gone. The lesson to take from this is think of something else and the pain will be gone.

YOU’RE NOT SICK, IT IS ALL IN YOUR HEAD. This is a lesson that probably wasn’t a great one to learn, as there are times your body is attempting to tell you something that you don’t listen to. This was a very valuable lesson in the power of mindset and that you can do anything you put your mind to, even overcome sickness.

READ READ AND THEN READ SOME MORE. Dad always had a book in his hand. It might have been the latest spy thriller or the newest business book to help push your thinking to the next level. Whichever it was he was reading it was a powerful lesson to always be expanding your thinking.

SPEND MONEY. Enjoy what you have. Have experiences. Create memories. All of that came with spending money and dad was good at that! This lesson might have been better learned if there was some balance to it and dad also taught how to save. Oh well, at least there are some great memories!

THE POINT OF CHILDREN ARE GRANDCHILDREN. This was a lesson that dad shared later in life. Maybe dad didn’t learn this one until later in life and therefore also taught the lesson of always be learning! There was nothing as important to dad as his grandchildren. Remember that as you wonder what happened to your children as they become know it all teenagers and adults. One day they will provide you with grandchildren and they will have to suffer their children growing up!

TAKE A LOT OF PHOTOS. Most memories of dad include a camera around his neck (cameras weren’t always built into phones) and snapping photos. Memories will be captured for ever with a simple click of a camera. Take those photos, look at those photos and remember the good times.

Thanks dad for all of these lessons. They will last forever and be passed on. You will never be forgotten. You were a great dad always filled with support even when it wasn’t clear.

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