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Time to make a mountain out of a molehill

One of dad’s favorite sayings was that I was making a mountain out of a molehill. While I loved dad, he did have a lot of strange or cliché sayings. I am wondering if there is a book on cliché’s for parenting.

What is usually meant by this saying is that you are turning a little issue into a big problem.This is a great lesson to learn in all areas of life.

mole

  • Are you blowing something out of proportion?
  • Are you taking things to an extreme for no reason?
  • Are you over reacting?

While it is a powerful lesson it is not what we are here to cover.

Today we want to look at taking that little molehill and seeing if we can turn it into our own mountain with a little focus and effort.

Why would we want to take something small and make it into something big? Because that is how success works. This is how change happens in our lives, like it or not.

This is a lesson we have heard many times from many different experts in many different ways. Hopefully today is the day that the message finally hits home with you.

  • Darren Hardy calls it the Compound Effect
  • Gary Keller and Jay Papasan call it The ONE Thing
  • Dr Leo Marvin (played by Richard Dreyfuss in What About Bob) called it Baby Steps

You can call it whatever you want just as long as you are doing it.

Through my most recent coaching opportunities it was clear that people understand how to look at the big picture.

  • We have our vision boards (I bet yours has a car, a house, a few trips and something about being out of debt on it)
  • We have our screen saver set with images (if you are seeing the photo of the beach on your computer it means it is idle, meaning you are not working on getting closer to that trip to the beach)
  • We have the letter we have written to our future self about what we know will happen.

All of these things are great. They are powerful. They are wonderful tools to use in your growth.

I could look at a photo of the United States and know to get from Seattle, Washington to Orlando, Florida I must go east and south. If I want to get from Seattle to Orlando I wouldn’t  just look at a picture, I would look at a map (remember those things before we had GPS.)

Your pictures are great. Our question is where is your road map to get to your target?

Start taking each of those molehills and stack them together day after day and you will have your mountain.

  • Save 10% of each paycheck and put it in something that earns you money and watch it grow
  • Take 5 extra minutes each day and put away your distractions and spend it with your spouse or children
  • Work out just a little more (or work out just a little for those doing nothing yet) and see growth happen
  • Take one less bite at each meal and watch the pounds add up and fall off over time.

Take your molehill and make it a mountain!

If you aren’t doing this on purpose, it is happening anyway. Make sure your mountain is one you are standing on top of and not one you are at the bottom wondering how you will ever climb to the top!

Mountain Top

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Chadalyst – Call one more person for work right now and build that mountain. Get up and walk another 1000 steps right now. Put down that snack you are eating right now. Choose your focus and start moving up your mountain!

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Squirrel!

It starts with a beep, a chirp, a bell tone and after that, you are finished!

SQUIRREL!

Now after you have seen what was so important to someone else it is time for you to get back to what you were doing.

Our good friend Dug, the dog in the movie UP, was the one to bring this our attention. We were all too busy being distracted to really even notice the problem.

Production numbers are down in companies in all industries and everyone is looking for the reason. The reason is right in front of us every single moment of every single day. We are too busy having to be “in the loop” all the time.

You sit at your desk getting into whatever project you have going on. Maybe you are writing a report, an email or creating a presentation for a meeting later that day. SQUIRREL! Just like that your focus is pulled to your smart phone that just beeped at you with a text, an email, a social media update and even if you don’t go to look at it your focus has been pulled.

We are even betting that your focus was pulled just by the word standing out as you were reading. Did your eyes jump ahead at the color and force you to then go back and catch up on reading?

Take a moment and turn off the notifications on your smart phone so that YOU can control when things happen. Before we had cell phones people waited to hear from us. Even with a pager people sent us a message and knew we would get back to them soon. Now with the technology advances instant gratification isn’t fast enough and people want you to reply as soon as they send the message (we are included in that)

Slow down a little. Believe it or not you will get more done if you finish one task before thinking about another one.

SQUIRREL!

Squirrel

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Change – Are you ready for it?

Woody Allen is known for many things and credited as being the person that first said…If you want to make God laugh tell him your plans.

Ever plan a trip? What happens just before you leave? You get busy!
Ever plan a big event? What happens? The weather gets in the way or you find yourself under the weather.
Ever think you have it all set and ready to go? If I may be so bold as to quote God “HA HA that’s what you think”

This isn’t all bad and usually finds us in a place that we should have been instead of where we thought we were going.

Have a goal. Have a target. Have a plan. Just be ready for changes to come your way.

These changes, these challenges and these moments are what develop our character and help us to find out who we really are.

Are you the person that is calm under pressure or the one that breaks down and ends up in the corner not sure what to do? Are you on that thrives on the unexpected or one that needs things to go as planned? Are you someone who can be truly counted on by those that would need you?

Are you ready for your plans to be changed at a moments notice? Here are a few things you can do to be as ready as possible…
1) Take a moment to tell those in your life that are important to you how you feel. This way you will never regret if something is taken from you
2) Forget about your Bucket List – that is a list of things you will do “one of these days” Instead look at your list and figure out your Carousel Rings on that list and grab them! Not sure what your carousel rings are just check out this past posting

3) Journal all of it! Your thoughts, your feelings, your memories. Capture them someplace that you will have them forever and be able to share them with those closest to you.

Do these things and when your plans are changed be it a little thing or a big thing you will be able to deal with it better!

Chadalyst – Be ready for change – if it can happen, it will happen when you are least ready for it. How will you prepare?

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T.G.I.F and all the other days

We hear T.G.I.F. weekly. Heck, there is even a restaurant that uses it as their name.

Sadly this is a message that we hear so often we have come to accept it as a truth. We are here to say that this is a truth that we must change!

As kids we go to school and look forward to the weekend to be able to play, stop listening to teachers and have more time to hang out with our friends. We looked forward to a break from the homework, the tests and the routine that school put upon us.

As we reach college the days all start to blend together between classes and the job that we have also taken on and we don’t know which way is up!

Then we enter the world of the employed. We have been taught that Friday is the best day as it brings the week to the end. If you have other days of the week off you never say T.G.I.W. you will instead usually refer to Wednesday as “your Friday.”

-We see people come to the office on a Monday depressed they have to return to work and that Friday is so far away.
-Tuesday is a little closer to Friday although it is still just after Monday and still part of our recovery.
-Wednesday even gets a nickname of “hump day” as we work our way over the middle point of the week and find ourselves on the downhill towards our weekend
-Thursday is a good day for most people and will be referred to as Friday Eve by many that can now taste the freedom of their weekend.
-T.G.I.Friday finally! A day to get all of those projects done and get on with our weekend and our time.

-Saturday and Sunday seem to fly by much too quickly and we find ourselves back at Monday. Check out more in our blog, Time Flies When…

What if this was different?

What if you taught your child to look forward to going to school on Monday and also appreciating the difference that the weekend brought?

What if when you were in college you looked forward to the diversity in your schedule between course load, any employment you had and the nights of pub crawls and hanging out with friends?

Then imagine the success you could bring to your life and everyone around you as an adult…

-Excited to head into the office on Monday to be with your co-workers and see what changes you could make to help someone in their life that day.
-Tuesday would be just another opportunity to help and spend time at a job you love.
-Wednesday would still be “hump day” and now that would bring you a feeling of joy as you found yourself right in the middle of the week of work.
-Thursday would be a day of success as others around you might be happier and that could add to your ability to help.
-Friday would finally show up and it would be a day of pulling together projects and other loose ends before the weekend was upon you.

-Saturday and Sunday would arrive and you would appreciate the change in schedule. Spending time on other tasks of your choosing, hanging out with your family and friends and maybe even sleeping in or staying up just a little later.

When Sunday night came, instead of dreading heading back to work Monday, you would find happiness in all aspects of your life.

Are you enjoying what you do or are you counting the moments as you wait for the end of the day on Friday?

Chadalyst – Find something that you love about each day of the week. Maybe a show you watch? An after school activity or other weekly event. Celebrate each day to help you find the love for the week as much as the weekend

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6 pack of learning from one of the most inspiring sources…a dog

We all look to the so-called experts on self-improvement, leadership and mindset for help. If we just took a moment to stop and look at what is around us we would be amazed at what we could learn.

That is just what we did and as we sat to put this blog together. We found the greatest inspiration we could imagine…a dog! With just watching Whistler (our dog) for a short time we were able to take away this refreshing 6 pack of lessons.

1)Give love and get love
Everyone wants someone to spend their lives with. Even those of you reading this saying not me, when the right person comes into your life you will change that thought. This goes for a dog as well. They are just looking for the right family to become a part of and once they find it they will give unconditional love to that family forever. Excitement when you walk in the door. Kisses (or a lot of licking) when you just sitting near them. Putting their head in your lap and knowing that they are safe with you. What do you do when this happens? You return the love and start petting them, which is all they wanted, your love in return.
The lesson to remember – if you want to find love and continue to experience love, make sure it starts with you as you give love first

2)Bury your treasures
Many of us lose what we have because we just leave it where we can see it. We don’t mean that someone steals it from you, although that can happen, we mean that most of us don’t save for that rainy day in our life. Give a dog a bone and they are off chewing and enjoying that bone. When they are done with it they don’t just leave it lying around, they find a great place to bury that bone so nobody else can take it from them. When the day comes that they want that bone, it is hidden and waiting for them.
The lesson to remember – save! Put some of that extra money aside for a time when you need it or for a goal that you are working towards

3)Loyalty rewards
We shop at certain stores all the time and they give us points to keep coming back. They reward us for our loyalty. Is there anyone as loyal as a good dog? Your dog is always there for you at a moments notice and will defend you from strangers. A dog shows such loyalty that most people consider their dog family. At the same time many of us have family members ready to take advantage of us at a moments notice. Maybe a dog is even better than just being a family member.
The lesson to remember – be loyal. To a brand, to a store, and most importantly to friends, family and others that you have let into your life as it will all come back as a reward when you least expect it.

4) Don’t worry be happy
A dog isn’t worried about where their next meal is coming from or when their next bath might happen. They aren’t thinking about possibly having a meeting with the other dog in the neighborhood. They are living in the moment, taking a nap, enjoy the sun or whatever they are doing. As a person we have to deal with life and that we remember lesson #2  from our dog. This is not a reason to focus on the stress and we all need to the pleasure of the moment we are in.
The lesson to remember – enjoy the moment and don’t stress over things you will not be able to control

5)Energy Explosion
A quiet moment is interrupted by the excitement of a dog that has decided that now is the best time to run in circles around the backyard. You might think that Whistler is training to be a horse at the barrel races or that she can go back in time if she just runs fast enough. The moment passes and with no energy left in her tank she finds a quiet place to lay down and take a short nap.
The lesson to remember – don’t leave anything in your tank! Use that energy, give it your all, and then after, find your favorite way to recharge before you go for it all over again!

6)Training Pleasures
There are two types of dogs, the type that are not trained well and drive everyone crazy and the ones that are trained and learn to behave and are loved for it. A dog wants to please and that means understanding what you are asking it to do. Train your dog. Let them learn to not jump on people, not bark all night long and to sit, fetch and any other trick. As the dog does what you ask they will be happier for it and so will you. Often they will even end up with an extra pat on the head or a treat and enjoy the reward of having been trained.
The lesson to remember – it doesn’t matter if you are a teacher, a doctor, a salesperson, a stay at home parent or anything else, training matters. Get extra training in your area of specialty and you will be better at what you do and you will be rewarded for it.

Chadalyst – Pick the lesson that you should focus on the most and make a plan for what you are going to do over the next week to work on that lesson.

Share in the comments below what you have learned from your dog.

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Things we have learned from characters named Hulk

It doesn’t matter your age as you probably know who The Hulk is. You also probably have an idea of who the colorful wrestler Hulk Hogan is. We can learn a lot from both of these characters. Let’s take a look at some of these important lessons…

1)Control your anger
This would be an obvious one as The Hulk was awoken with anger. Quietly living within Bruce Banner until the anger would overtake him and The Hulk would be released upon those provoking the anger. The Hulk would then SMASH everything he could and Bruce Banner would have to deal with the consequences later by repairing relationships or often having to leave town.

The lesson – before allowing your anger to take over, think of the mess that will be made and the possible consequences.

2)Never give up
This was a lesson that Hulk Hogan reminded us almost every big wrestling match he entered into. At some point during the battle the Hulkster would be down and out as his opponent was dishing out the punishment. It would get so bad that the ref would come over and lift Hulk’s arm in the air to see if he was still conscious. The first check and the second check would result in the same thing – no reaction. The third time the arm was raised it stayed up and Hulk Hogan began to battle back and overcome the odds to snatch victory!

The lesson – no matter how grim a situation is looking, if you have enough fight in you there is no reason to quit.

3)Sometimes being a character is a good thing
Could you imagine the fear in the eyes of a super villain if Bruce Banner told them to stop? Once The Hulk shows up then the situation is taken a little more seriously. The same for Hulk Hogan as he would enter a wrestling ring ripping his shirt off and dancing to fire up the fans and creating distractions for his competition.

The lesson – often we need to get out of our shell and allow the character within to shine. This can also be a great way to distract others from things we don’t want them to see as they focus on what we are showing them.

 

There is much to learn from characters named Hulk and many victories to be gained by following these lessons.

Let your inner character out to shine.

Chadalyst Take a moment and write down the things that make you angry and bring out your Hulk to wreak havoc on everything and everyone around you. Now that you are aware of these things what will you do to control your outbursts?

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Mirror Mirror on the Wall

The first image that goes through your mind when you hear those words of, “mirror, mirror on the wall” is probably the evil queen from Snow White. While the Evil Queen was just that, evil, the mirror was not. The Magic Mirror spoke nothing other than the truth. As we know from the story the mirror tells the queen that she is the fairest in the land, until the day that Snow White becomes of age.

We are not here to discuss the story of Snow White or cover the classic tale of good versus evil. Instead we are here to look deeper into that mirror.

When you look into the mirror what question is it that you ask? Are you asking who is the fairest in the land? Are you asking where your hair has gone or where those strange new hairs came from? Are you asking what lies ahead for you or maybe you are asking what you did with all of those days that have already passed.

The questions are important and the answer is really what we are here to take a look at. As the Magic Mirror always did, your mirror does the same when it answers you. It answers you honestly.

When you ask the mirror about the spare tire around your midsection, it is your choices that helped that tire grow and your choice that keep the tire there.

When you ask for confidence or beauty, do you see a confident person or a beautiful person or are you not having that confidence in your beauty and seeing neither when you look at the reflection?

Stand up to that mirror and start getting the answers that you want!

You ARE confident
You ARE beautiful
You ARE unstoppable
You ARE all of that and more!
Now…believe it when you look into that mirror and that is the answer that will come back to you!

Are you willing to look into that mirror and ask the tough question? More importantly are you willing to hear the answers?

Chadalyst -What do you want to change the most? Go look into your mirror and let it know what is coming!

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