There were a few sayings that our dads always were ready to share with us as we grow up, such as:
- six to one, half a dozen the other
- the maid isn’t coming today
- pull my finger
- Sometimes it doesn’t matter which choice we make, just make one.
- Clean up after yourself because nobody else is going to do it for you. This means your physical messes as well as emotional ones you create (we don’t understand that second part until much later in life)
- Be careful when something seems easy as it might not bring results that you desire
There were many other sayings that dads always have to share and my dad had his favorite one…The World Isn’t Fair! This might have been one of the hardest lessons for a kid to understand as we were always told to be fair and share and use our manners and then the world didn’t follow those same rules.
Maybe you were the most qualified for that job position or maybe you did work really hard on a project that someone else took the credit for. It might have been that you were planning a vacation that had to be canceled or you were rear ended in your brand new car.
Whatever it was that the world did to you, dad always seemed to have the same piece of advice…the world isn’t fair, and what are you going to do about it?
This was all captured well by the wonderful cartoonist Bill Watterson in this Calvin and Hobbes comic strip…
Calvin of course was overlooking the wonderful ways that the world isn’t fair did work in his advantage. How many other kids got away with the stuff he did? How many other kids had an amazing talking imaginary tiger/best friend like he did? We know Calvin is a comic and not real (you knew that right?) and yet we often act the same way.
Think about all the times you have claimed the world isn’t fair to someone. Now stop for a moment and think about all of the ways the world isn’t fair AND in your favor?
Maybe you have a great partner in your life or a wonderful job you enjoy going to. Remember that you might have a home to go to which puts you ahead of the estimated 100 million homeless people in the world.
The world isn’t fair, and while sometimes it might pull the rug out from under you remember, there are many times that the world seems to revolve around you.
Thanks dads for all of the words of wisdom!
Chadalyst – Write down the 3 ways that the world is not fair and seems to be against you. Now take a moment and write down 3 ways that the world is not fair and in your favor! You will start to see the positive and stop worrying about the smaller issues.