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Happy New Year!

HAPPY NEW YEAR!

This is not being posted on the wrong date at all. Why do we have to wait for December 31st/January 1st to celebrate a new start?

Just because we throw away our old calendar and hang a new one on the side of the refrigerator, that we will never look at, doesn’t make things magically change in our world. You can celebrate a new start any day of the year and you can even do it more than once if you need to.

Think about the things that happen in January as we start a new year.

  • we start a new diet that fails before Superbowl weekend
  • we join a gym that we go to for the first week and then decide it is too crowded to return
  • we focus more at work and then something doesn’t work out so we return to what we used to do
  • we keep in touch with people that we hadn’t until we remember why we stopped keeping in touch with them in the first place

New Year’s Eve is a night to celebrate, a night to start over and just another night.

Pick any night such as tonight and make tomorrow your brand new start.

  • go on that diet and stick with it since you are on your own and will not rely on others
  • join a gym and get in there to start making a habit of it since most people are not working out
  • focus more at work and get more done and stand out in the crowd of people doing the same old thing
  • stop and send a card, a note, a text, or call those that you really want to keep in touch with because you choose too not because you feel you should

You can have the new start any time you want so don’t wait on the calendar to change. Your night might just not come with the fireworks or the midnight kiss.

Chadalyst – Celebrate New Year’s Eve tonight and while you are celebrating create your list of resolutions that you will stick with!

Share what changes you will start with in the comments below.

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T.G.I.F and all the other days

We hear T.G.I.F. weekly. Heck, there is even a restaurant that uses it as their name.

Sadly this is a message that we hear so often we have come to accept it as a truth. We are here to say that this is a truth that we must change!

As kids we go to school and look forward to the weekend to be able to play, stop listening to teachers and have more time to hang out with our friends. We looked forward to a break from the homework, the tests and the routine that school put upon us.

As we reach college the days all start to blend together between classes and the job that we have also taken on and we don’t know which way is up!

Then we enter the world of the employed. We have been taught that Friday is the best day as it brings the week to the end. If you have other days of the week off you never say T.G.I.W. you will instead usually refer to Wednesday as “your Friday.”

-We see people come to the office on a Monday depressed they have to return to work and that Friday is so far away.
-Tuesday is a little closer to Friday although it is still just after Monday and still part of our recovery.
-Wednesday even gets a nickname of “hump day” as we work our way over the middle point of the week and find ourselves on the downhill towards our weekend
-Thursday is a good day for most people and will be referred to as Friday Eve by many that can now taste the freedom of their weekend.
-T.G.I.Friday finally! A day to get all of those projects done and get on with our weekend and our time.

-Saturday and Sunday seem to fly by much too quickly and we find ourselves back at Monday. Check out more in our blog, Time Flies When…

What if this was different?

What if you taught your child to look forward to going to school on Monday and also appreciating the difference that the weekend brought?

What if when you were in college you looked forward to the diversity in your schedule between course load, any employment you had and the nights of pub crawls and hanging out with friends?

Then imagine the success you could bring to your life and everyone around you as an adult…

-Excited to head into the office on Monday to be with your co-workers and see what changes you could make to help someone in their life that day.
-Tuesday would be just another opportunity to help and spend time at a job you love.
-Wednesday would still be “hump day” and now that would bring you a feeling of joy as you found yourself right in the middle of the week of work.
-Thursday would be a day of success as others around you might be happier and that could add to your ability to help.
-Friday would finally show up and it would be a day of pulling together projects and other loose ends before the weekend was upon you.

-Saturday and Sunday would arrive and you would appreciate the change in schedule. Spending time on other tasks of your choosing, hanging out with your family and friends and maybe even sleeping in or staying up just a little later.

When Sunday night came, instead of dreading heading back to work Monday, you would find happiness in all aspects of your life.

Are you enjoying what you do or are you counting the moments as you wait for the end of the day on Friday?

Chadalyst – Find something that you love about each day of the week. Maybe a show you watch? An after school activity or other weekly event. Celebrate each day to help you find the love for the week as much as the weekend

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Klout Klarity

It is time to get some Klout Klarity. In a search to find out if we are as important as we think we are we turn to sites such as Klout. When we don’t get the answer that we want (we aren’t as important as we hope to be) we then find the site’s weaknesses and bash Klout as a scoring system.

In this posting we are going to look at the ways that Klout works.

We understand there are ways to “game” the system and we will not cover those here. Every system has a flaw and someone will always find the way to work the system. If you just use Klout for what it is, you will find it useful and the future applications are powerful.

-Forget Your Score and Track Your Progress Instead
It doesn’t matter if your score is 20, 30, 40 or higher. Use Klout to monitor your score and watch for it to climb or drop. If your score is climbing you improving in the area of engagement. If your score is dropping you are lacking in social engagement. Track this on a regular basis and continue with your success or halt your drop.
Side note – according to Klout the average score is actually 20 and as it climbs it becomes exponentially harder to continue climbing

-Learn How to Understand the Klout Charts
Learn how to understand the charts on Klout. Track your True Reach, Amplification and Network to watch and see how many people are responding to the things you are posting. Is your network growing or shrinking? Are they acting on the things you are saying? Check out your Klout style to see if you are content creator or someone who syndicates important information or something in between

-Explore People
Want to know what someone is talking about socially most of the time? Check out their Klout page and see the topics that they are influential in. Some people will have no topics and some will have many. These are the things that you can expect them to focus their social voice on.

-Explore Topics
Are you wondering about a specific topic like your home town or a company like Apple or a topic like Realtors? Just enter the category into Klout’s search bar and find out whom Klout believes is the most influential and even more importantly find out who the users believes are the most influential as top +K recipients (more on +K later)

-Let People Know You Are Listening
There is nothing that will keep someone generating great content more than others thanking them for what they are sharing and letting them know that you are listening. Visit their Klout page and give them +K in the topic they are influencing you about. This is your way of saying “thank you for sharing on the topic of _____”

These last two things are great bonuses to Klout on top of everything else.

-Earn Free Things
Check in and check the Perks! You never know what could be coming your way. Maybe a gift card from American Express or an iTunes gift card or a tv series on DVD or any other number of perks depending on you. Free things never hurt and all the companies want is you as an influential person to speak about them. (NOTE – for the record I have received each of these perks at one time or another so I know they happen)

-Earn Badges
There are many people out there that love their badges. From the Boy Scouts to the Foursquare users and Klout is no exception with their achievements. Check out what others have earned badges for and earn your own for giving +K, viewing profiles, reaching score plateaus and so much more. These badges are just a visual representation of what a user has achieved.

Chadalyst – Check out your Klout score and set a goal for the next level you will reach on Klout and by when. Then go interact with people on social networks!

Share in the comments below your current Klout score.

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6 pack of learning from one of the most inspiring sources…a dog

We all look to the so-called experts on self-improvement, leadership and mindset for help. If we just took a moment to stop and look at what is around us we would be amazed at what we could learn.

That is just what we did and as we sat to put this blog together. We found the greatest inspiration we could imagine…a dog! With just watching Whistler (our dog) for a short time we were able to take away this refreshing 6 pack of lessons.

1)Give love and get love
Everyone wants someone to spend their lives with. Even those of you reading this saying not me, when the right person comes into your life you will change that thought. This goes for a dog as well. They are just looking for the right family to become a part of and once they find it they will give unconditional love to that family forever. Excitement when you walk in the door. Kisses (or a lot of licking) when you just sitting near them. Putting their head in your lap and knowing that they are safe with you. What do you do when this happens? You return the love and start petting them, which is all they wanted, your love in return.
The lesson to remember – if you want to find love and continue to experience love, make sure it starts with you as you give love first

2)Bury your treasures
Many of us lose what we have because we just leave it where we can see it. We don’t mean that someone steals it from you, although that can happen, we mean that most of us don’t save for that rainy day in our life. Give a dog a bone and they are off chewing and enjoying that bone. When they are done with it they don’t just leave it lying around, they find a great place to bury that bone so nobody else can take it from them. When the day comes that they want that bone, it is hidden and waiting for them.
The lesson to remember – save! Put some of that extra money aside for a time when you need it or for a goal that you are working towards

3)Loyalty rewards
We shop at certain stores all the time and they give us points to keep coming back. They reward us for our loyalty. Is there anyone as loyal as a good dog? Your dog is always there for you at a moments notice and will defend you from strangers. A dog shows such loyalty that most people consider their dog family. At the same time many of us have family members ready to take advantage of us at a moments notice. Maybe a dog is even better than just being a family member.
The lesson to remember – be loyal. To a brand, to a store, and most importantly to friends, family and others that you have let into your life as it will all come back as a reward when you least expect it.

4) Don’t worry be happy
A dog isn’t worried about where their next meal is coming from or when their next bath might happen. They aren’t thinking about possibly having a meeting with the other dog in the neighborhood. They are living in the moment, taking a nap, enjoy the sun or whatever they are doing. As a person we have to deal with life and that we remember lesson #2  from our dog. This is not a reason to focus on the stress and we all need to the pleasure of the moment we are in.
The lesson to remember – enjoy the moment and don’t stress over things you will not be able to control

5)Energy Explosion
A quiet moment is interrupted by the excitement of a dog that has decided that now is the best time to run in circles around the backyard. You might think that Whistler is training to be a horse at the barrel races or that she can go back in time if she just runs fast enough. The moment passes and with no energy left in her tank she finds a quiet place to lay down and take a short nap.
The lesson to remember – don’t leave anything in your tank! Use that energy, give it your all, and then after, find your favorite way to recharge before you go for it all over again!

6)Training Pleasures
There are two types of dogs, the type that are not trained well and drive everyone crazy and the ones that are trained and learn to behave and are loved for it. A dog wants to please and that means understanding what you are asking it to do. Train your dog. Let them learn to not jump on people, not bark all night long and to sit, fetch and any other trick. As the dog does what you ask they will be happier for it and so will you. Often they will even end up with an extra pat on the head or a treat and enjoy the reward of having been trained.
The lesson to remember – it doesn’t matter if you are a teacher, a doctor, a salesperson, a stay at home parent or anything else, training matters. Get extra training in your area of specialty and you will be better at what you do and you will be rewarded for it.

Chadalyst – Pick the lesson that you should focus on the most and make a plan for what you are going to do over the next week to work on that lesson.

Share in the comments below what you have learned from your dog.

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7 Deadly Sins of Facebook

What is the etiquette of Facebook?

Check out these 7 Deadly Sins that are occurring all the time. Let us know in the comments which sin you suffer from and what sins missed this list.

1)The Terrible Typo
One of the biggest etiquette errors is the simple typo on Facebook. This one is so simple to overcome as Facebook even puts a red line under the misspelled words! Take a moment, read your postings and comments before you press submit.
Take a moment and learn that a lot is 2 words and the difference between their/there/they’re and all of the other simple errors.
When you have typos in your postings and comments it shows people that you are sloppy and don’t care about them enough to get it right.

2)Frequent Photos
Just because you have heard that adding a photo to a posting can increase your exposure and engagement on Facebook doesn’t mean every posting needs a photo. A posting about the weather does not need to be accompanied by an image of the sun or the rain. A posting about a movie does not need to have the movie poster or lead actor image attached to the posting.
A photo can be powerful as we all know that a picture is worth a thousand words. Just remember that too many photos and you become the person that just talks too much and nobody is listening to anymore.

3)Tagging Trauma
You need to stop tagging people in your comments and photos for no reason other than to get them see what you are saying. When you take a photo of a building or the sun, why are you tagging people in that photo? When you post a photo quote (see #2) why are you tagging people? Tag people in photos when they are with you or were with you at the event. Tag people in comments when you are talking to them or about them. Otherwise, stop tagging people just to engage with them.

4)Endless Events
It is great that you have an art show, an open house, a book signing or whatever your event is. Why are you inviting people who live across the country and won’t be there? If you are using the power of Facebook to promote an event make sure you invite the people who can benefit from the event instead of clicking “invite all”

5)Group Growing
Groups can be wonderful places to share information and photos and inside jokes and anything else you are focusing your group on. This does not give you permission to add everyone you know to your group. Send a request, post about the group and invite people to it. Stop adding everyone to your group as most will leave and never come back.

6)Twitter Talk
You are on Facebook not Twitter. Would you speak Italian to a German-speaking person? Would you speak French to an English-speaking person? Why are you speaking Twitter to Facebook? Stop abbreviating your words as you are not limited on characters on Facebook. Stop using hashtags unless it is part of a post for a reason.

7)Missing Person Profile Photo
Your profile photo is YOUR PROFILE PHOTO. Not a place for your profile to be of your pet, of your company logo or of anything inanimate. Your spouse, your children and your pet are allowed to be in your profile photo as long as you are there with them! Your profile photo shows up on each status update and each comment you make. Be sure that people know who you are.
*This sin has an exception – if you are changing your profile photo for a short-term to support a charity or event, just make sure to change it back.

Chadalyst – Review this list and go fix any of the sins you are currently guilty of. Pay attention to your future postings. Share this blog with someone you know is guilty of these sins and help make Facebook a better place for all.

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Things we have learned from characters named Hulk

It doesn’t matter your age as you probably know who The Hulk is. You also probably have an idea of who the colorful wrestler Hulk Hogan is. We can learn a lot from both of these characters. Let’s take a look at some of these important lessons…

1)Control your anger
This would be an obvious one as The Hulk was awoken with anger. Quietly living within Bruce Banner until the anger would overtake him and The Hulk would be released upon those provoking the anger. The Hulk would then SMASH everything he could and Bruce Banner would have to deal with the consequences later by repairing relationships or often having to leave town.

The lesson – before allowing your anger to take over, think of the mess that will be made and the possible consequences.

2)Never give up
This was a lesson that Hulk Hogan reminded us almost every big wrestling match he entered into. At some point during the battle the Hulkster would be down and out as his opponent was dishing out the punishment. It would get so bad that the ref would come over and lift Hulk’s arm in the air to see if he was still conscious. The first check and the second check would result in the same thing – no reaction. The third time the arm was raised it stayed up and Hulk Hogan began to battle back and overcome the odds to snatch victory!

The lesson – no matter how grim a situation is looking, if you have enough fight in you there is no reason to quit.

3)Sometimes being a character is a good thing
Could you imagine the fear in the eyes of a super villain if Bruce Banner told them to stop? Once The Hulk shows up then the situation is taken a little more seriously. The same for Hulk Hogan as he would enter a wrestling ring ripping his shirt off and dancing to fire up the fans and creating distractions for his competition.

The lesson – often we need to get out of our shell and allow the character within to shine. This can also be a great way to distract others from things we don’t want them to see as they focus on what we are showing them.

 

There is much to learn from characters named Hulk and many victories to be gained by following these lessons.

Let your inner character out to shine.

Chadalyst Take a moment and write down the things that make you angry and bring out your Hulk to wreak havoc on everything and everyone around you. Now that you are aware of these things what will you do to control your outbursts?

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Sunrise

For those of you that don’t get the chance or take the time to enjoy the start of a day we wanted to share these with you…

sunrise

sunrise

Sunrise through the mist

sunrise over the farms

lake sunrise

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