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Archive for June, 2012

The World Isn’t Fair

There were a few sayings that our dads always were ready to share with us as we grow up, such as:

  • six to one, half a dozen the other
  • the maid isn’t coming today
  • pull my finger
Hopefully we learned lessons from these words of wisdom.
  • Sometimes it doesn’t matter which choice we make, just make one.
  • Clean up after yourself because nobody else is going to do it for you. This means your physical messes as well as emotional ones you create (we don’t understand that second part until much later in life)
  • Be careful when something seems easy as it might not bring results that you desire

There were many other sayings that dads always have to share and my dad had his favorite one…The World Isn’t Fair! This might have been one of the hardest lessons for a kid to understand as we were always told to be fair and share and use our manners and then the world didn’t follow those same rules.

Maybe you were the most qualified for that job position or maybe you did work really hard on a project that someone else took the credit for. It might have been that you were planning a vacation that had to be canceled or you were rear ended in your brand new car.

Whatever it was that the world did to you, dad always seemed to have the same piece of advice…the world isn’t fair, and what are you going to do about it?

This was all captured well by the wonderful cartoonist Bill Watterson in this Calvin and Hobbes comic strip…

Wisdom from Calvin and Hobbes

Calvin of course was overlooking the wonderful ways that the world isn’t fair did work in his advantage. How many other kids got away with the stuff he did? How many other kids had an amazing talking imaginary tiger/best friend like he did? We know Calvin is a comic and not real (you knew that right?) and yet we often act the same way.

Think about all the times you have claimed the world isn’t fair to someone. Now stop for a moment and think about all of the ways the world isn’t fair AND in your favor?

Maybe you have a great partner in your life or a wonderful job you enjoy going to. Remember that you might have a home to go to which puts you ahead of the estimated 100 million homeless people in the world.

The world isn’t fair, and while sometimes it might pull the rug out from under you remember, there are many times that the world seems to revolve around you.

Thanks dads for all of the words of wisdom!

Chadalyst – Write down the 3 ways that the world is not fair and seems to be against you. Now take a moment and write down 3 ways that the world is not fair and in your favor! You will start to see the positive and stop worrying about the smaller issues.

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Choose your own adventure

Have you ever wanted to be an author? You are one already! You are writing your own Choose Your Own Adventure story each and every day of your life.

Do you remember reading the Choose Your Own Adventure books? You might have been lost at sea or searching for treasure or maybe you even discovered aliens! As you read into the book you were given choices to make and that sent you to different pages in the book. The best part about the Choose Your Own Adventure books was that you could reread them and make different choices all from the comfort of your own chair.

Life is the same as a Choose Your Own Adventure book except that we can’t peak at the other page to see what our choice has led us to. Sometimes we do get the chance to repeat a choice as George Santayana said “those who do not learn from history are doomed to repeat it.” Although that usually means we made the wrong choice the first time.

One choice will have a domino effect on other choices just like in the Choose Your Own Adventure books. If you have made the choice to get in better shape that will have an impact on your choices about what to eat and your exercise plan.

In the Choose Your Own Adventure books you were always rewarded for making the morally or ethically correct choice and you were often rewarded for hard-working choices. Are you following those rules in your life as well?

Do you choose to make one more sales call or call it a day?
Do you choose to grade one more paper from your students or turn on the tv?
Do you choose to  get up and work out or stay in bed for an extra half an hour?

You might not like all the choices you have before you. You might be fearful of the outcome from one of the choices as it could mean an end to a relationship or looking for a new job. You might feel that you are backed into a corner and have no choice. You can always find a way out as long as you are willing to deal with the choice you make.

Workaholics remember that you are also making a choice as you stay at work longer or bring work home with you. You are choosing work over relationships and interaction.

Some choices need to be made now to allow for other choices to be available to us later, such as working harder now to afford that vacation later. Just remember each choice has a consequence to it.

We wish that life could be as simple as a Choose Your Own Adventure book and we could put it down or just flip back a few pages when we make the wrong choice. Instead, be ready for the choice you make might be the one that leads you to something beautiful!

This morning I had to make the choice of a little more sleep or getting up for an early morning bike ride. I chose the bike ride and was rewarded with beauty.

Chadalyst – Make a list of all of the choices you have made over the past week (remember everything is a choice) and find a pattern. Are you making the best choices for you?

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Lessons from a Great White Shark

One of the most feared and powerful creatures on our planet is the great white shark. It is a killing machine that has survived evolutionary changes for generations. One thing to know about this magnificent creation is that if a great white shark stops swimming it dies. The shark must always be in motion.

The same thing in your life.

Are you always moving or are you standing still?

We are not only talking actual physical action, we are talking about your mind as well.

When was the last time you learned something new?
When was the last time you took a class?
When was the last time you researched a new topic or area or culture?

As children most of us attend school for 13 of our first 18 years of life. Some of us continue for years after that. Some of you might even be life long students. When we complete our formal education is when the real learning begins. We learn more and more about ourselves and the type of adult we are going to become.

What type of adult are you?

Are you the type of adult that is happy with the status quo? Can you go through your routine, fear change and find yourself happy and content with that?
OR
Are you the type of adult that is looking to grow at every opportunity? Learning new skills and finding people to help you grow in your life?

Are you standing still or are you moving and growing?

As the great white must continue to move so must you!

Stop standing still!
 

Chadalyst – Pick up a book that will help you expand your thinking and get reading! Don’t want to read a helpful book…sign up for a class to help you learn a new skill. Let us know what book you are reading or what skill you are learning.

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Time flies when…

We have all heard the expression that “time flies when we are having fun” and yet there is so much more to it.

Why does time fly when we are having fun? It flies because we are distracted and not paying attention to the clock. We are enjoying our life and making wonderful memories. We are being distracted from the small stuff. Our internal clock stops keeping track of all the things we need to get done and allows time to fly past.
Then there are times that we are doing something we don’t want to do or that is taking a lot of effort. Maybe that is the effort of running a race. It might be the effort of having to sit through another dull meeting at the office. For you it could be waiting in the dentist office for your turn. Any of these things make time feel like it is moving at the pace of a snail.

Interestingly enough, an hour is an hour, a minute is a minute, and a second is a second and that never changes. A great day might feel like it is over too quickly yet it takes the same 24 hours, 1440 minutes or 86,400 seconds as that other day that seemed as though it would never end.

The question is if you have the same amount of time either way, which way would you prefer to pass those moments?

If you said really slowly so you can feel like you have more time then we wish you the best in a slow life that you are subjecting yourself to.

On the other hand if you said, let the hours fly by, then we challenge you to fill each of those hours with things that you love to do! This will make the time feel like it is just racing through your fingers in a great way. Play sports, find a career you enjoy, make time for your family, learn a language, take a trip and whatever else fires you up. In other words forget that bucket list of things you might get to at some point and grab for the carousel ring.

Time is going to pass one way or another so enjoy it as it passes, quickly we hope.
Chadalyst -what is something that makes time fly in your life? Let us know in the comments and schedule a time for whatever it is in the next 30 days.

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Fear Factor: Popular tv show or your life?

Did you ever watch the hit show Fear Factor? Many did and many will pretend they never did. Some will claim watching it as a guilty pleasure and some of you will proudly claim to have never missed an episode.

This is not a review of the show. This is a look at the many powerful lessons that Fear Factor can teach us.

Let’s take a look at how the show worked and the lessons we should learn.

Contestants would appear on the show unaware what was ahead for them.
-This sounds like almost every day in your life doesn’t it? You wake up and have no idea what is ahead for you. You think you have a handle on what is to come and sometimes it works like you think. Then again, sometimes life decides to change the plans and greets you with a flat tire, an unhappy customer, an ill family member or who knows what.

What do you fear that could be a part of any day of your life?

  • fear being alone?
  • fear heights?
  • fear spiders or snakes?
  • fear commitment?
  • fear the dark?

Once the contestants were on the show and found out some of the challenges ahead of them they had no choice other than face their fear.
-Again this is just like your life. When that unhappy customer comes in to your store or when your day puts a challenge in front of you what do you do? Do you quit and run home to hide under your blankets or do you stand up to the challenge and take it head on? You might not like it and you have to remember to face the fear that stands before you.

After each challenge some of the contestants on the show were sent home. Maybe their time was the slowest or they collected the lowest number of objects from a challenge or maybe they gave in to the fear.
-You might not win each challenge that life puts in your path and that is ok. As long as you learn from it just in case you get the chance for the same challenge one more time in your life.

At the end of the show one contestant is left standing and declared the winner. They would win a cash prize and the fame.
-As you face each of your fears and overcome them you will also be declared a winner in life and you will feel the power that comes from the confidence boost.*

Probably the most important lesson that we learn from the show (and the contestants might not have learned this one) is that we shouldn’t eat things like living worms, goat eyes or other parts of other animals.

Face your fears head on and come out a winner, just like the contestants from Fear Factor!

Chadalyst -What do you fear? We believe one of the things most people fear is success. Tell us what you fear in the comments and what you are going to do to overcome your fear.

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* Ember Seminars will not be sending any cash prizes, so overcome your fears for the powerful internal satisfaction

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