There is a limited number of relationships that each of us can maintain at any one time. The most well known research on this topic was done by Robin Dunbar who states, “humans can only comfortably maintain 150 stable relationships.” He goes on to say that this 150 is “the number of people one knows and keeps social contact with.”
What happens when you meet someone or have a relationship with someone and want to make sure that you keep social contact with them? You have to work at it.
Relationships take work!
You must T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, otherwise your relationships are toast!
For those of you that don’t know the expression, “you’re toast” it is a phrase used to indicate that someone is in big trouble. In this case, your relationships!
While you might be able to have in the area of 150 relationships, you should figure your 30-40 key relationships in your life, both personal and professional (yes that means your spouse, your children, your parents, as well as your boss, co-workers and clients)
If you can remember to take the time to toast each relationship it will be that much easier to strengthen your key relationships.
T = Talk to them.
This means that you must pick up the phone and call them or even better get face to face and spend a little time with them. This doesn’t matter if it is family, a co-worker, or a client that you value. Check in and spend a little time catching up.
What to say when you are talking to them?
O = Offer
A = Assistance
Don’t worry about asking them to help you, instead make the focus of your call about how you can offer assistance to them! They will return the favor again and again as you continue to strengthen the relationship
S = Send them something
See an interesting article online? Email it to them and let them know. Read something in a magazine that they might enjoy reading, send it to them. Find a comic in the Sunday paper (we know you flip to the comics first) that makes you laugh, cut it out and mail it to them. Make sure they continue to get things from you.
T = Text them
In today’s society almost everyone texts. It is an easy way for communication. Start the day with a simple text to wish them a great day. Send off a text to share something that happened. Did you see them post something on Facebook that really caught your attention? Don’t just comment on Facebook, take it a step farther and text them as well. Just don’t text and drive!
If you can’t remember each month to T.O.A.S.T. your relationships, then they will fall apart and your relationships will be toast.
Take a moment, raise a glass, or in this case a phone, and toast your key relationships and watch them strengthen!
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